Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy?  How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

I think that to keep a BDSM relationship healthy, you have to remember real life.  In this life we have to eat, therefore we have to have money or means to get food, therefore, we have to work for that.  So, work, family, kids, friends, and other hobbies are needed in life and must be addressed.  How to keep it all and have the BDSM life?  I think that it comes down to trying to mix the two appropriately.  It is hard to live 24/7, have a career, family, kids, friends, and other hobbies and still live the BDSM lifestyle.  And I don’t think that we do a good job of it sometimes.  I do think, though, that my Master/husband and I still both want the same things.  I think that we have our heads in the right place and sometimes other things take precedence, hopefully temporarily, and then BDSM can still come out again on top.  Weaving BDSM into the other things is what I believe makes it still prominent and healthy.  🙂

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