Age Play – A Wicked Wednesday Entry

What exactly is age play?  I liked this from wikipedia – 

Ageplay can be sexual or non-sexual. It may be mildly sexual, or very sexual.

Ageplay can enhance power dynamics, and allow a partner to feel more comfortable with their dominance or submission. Oftentimes, sissification of boys is present, in order to add another level of power to the situation.

Sexual variations may include among other things such as incest play, in which individuals recreate and sexualize roles within a family,[2]and Daddy’s girl fetishism in which real or imagined age differences are the basis of the roleplaying and the female is portrayed as the younger partner.[3]

Ageplay is not considered pedophilia or related to pedophilia by professional psychologists.[4] Individuals who ageplay are not attracted to children, but instead enjoy portraying children, or enjoy childlike elements typical of children present in adults.

Sexual ageplay itself does not involve the sexual attraction to biologically underage people. Rather, when a consenting adult takes on the roleplaying mindset of a young person, it is motivated by re-experiencing emotional states and social interactions of one’s youth, which also happen to be pleasurable in a sexual context to the participants.

I was glad to read this, because my Master and I have engaged in age play where he plays the Daddy figure and I play the little girl figure.  I have never been sexually abused by my father or any older man and I, nor my Master, are interested in playing with children in a  sexual way AT ALL, nor are we interested in pretending that play.  It’s more of a Daddy as the Dominant one and Little girl as a submissive portrayal.  I, personally, like the idea of portraying child-like submission, but not play like I’m a child.  And even, then, I’m not thinking a small child, but more of a teen, even an older teen.  

Another reason I was glad to come across this wikipedia entry was because it is hard to reveal kinks sometimes, even if this is an occasional kink.  We don’t want to feel bad about our kinks or our sexuality and so being validated feels good.  

Wicked Wednesday... be inspired & share...

Kink of the week – Roleplay

Roleplay – an interesting topic to explore.  I consider myself a submissive and my husband a Dominant and Master.  We don’t pretend or roleplay.  It is true that the degree to which we are expressing our submissive and Dominance.  We definitely express more of the BDSM when we are in bed/having sex.  And because we are long term partners –  We’ve been together for about 10 years – i think life gets in the way sometimes of our degrees.  But as for the roles we are – as opposed to playing them – I feel I really am submissive and don’t think that I could ever play the Dominant.

We have done a little role play that does not have a definite line between role play and real selves and that is the Daddy/Little Girl thing.  For me, it IS a big turn on, not only because it makes me wet even writing about it, but because it shares so much with Dom/sub.  I like to feel vulnerable, when I know I am safe.  I like the thought of being “made” to do things in any text, actually.  I never was abused as a child and I never had sexual thoughts of my father, whom I adored and thought was awesome!  Even when we play this role, I don’t think of my father at all, but rather of my Master.  Because for me, it is all about power – whatever the name!

I think it would be fun to role play in some other situations.  I think if my Master were leading it, I could easily fall into any role that he wanted me to be put in as long as I were still allowed to be my submissive self.

<a href="Kink of the Week“>

The Smut Marathon – the ideal setting

I think this looks like fun to vote on.  15 authors are given a writing prompt and then readers vote.  Little by little they are eliminated until the winner!  I’m not a writer, by any means, so I’m just a voter.  I just read all 15 submissions.  This time the submission writing prompt was:  “..a 200-word (maximum) description of your ideal setting for an erotic story. ”  Hmmm….now, what turned me on?

I liked the New Orleans apartment because it kind of reminded me of a special night in my Master’s apartment before we married.  Windows open, breezes and city noises coming through them and music swaying to the curtains.  sighh…romance.

I also liked the Lake House because of the hidden room….possibilities!

Not a fantasy of sci-fi, really, as a turn-on, the Scenes with Fantastic locations was out.

oooo…the Far from Civilization, now that could be good!  The thought of overpowerment by a savage man and taken to a place with different rules and lost from the real world.  uh-huh!

The Long English Beach also seemed good.  I love anything with ocean!

The Garage – uh, no, could be a good story, but not the setting alone, not a turn-on for me.

The Tiny Cabin by the ocean – ye-ah!  again – ocean

The assault course – guess it could be a story, but it kind of made me cold…where is my afghan?

A Bar – not really a turn-on for me…too many people

Sturdy Wooden Cabin – ooo…lots of possibilities here, too.

Library – very interesting – I would like to see where this one goes.

Return to the Scene – again, not a turn-on, but would be interesting to see where it goes, or where it has been.  😉

The Hole in the Wall doesn’t bring turn on to me, but rather a ‘disgusting’.

Anticipation could well be a party!

Pulse – not a turn-on, but maybe precedence to something else?

Okay, so my vote? – I liked lots of them – the ones with cabins, the ones with ocean the apartments – but my fave? – Far from Civilization – the WINNER!

What’s your vote and reason?

http://smutmarathon.blogspot.co.uk/

Check it out here and post a comment here for what you thought?

If, Ands, and Butts

1. If you had a magic beauty wand, what would you give yourself?

a. Shinier hair, hands down.
b. Glowing, soft skin–pass the moisturizer dude.
c. Brighter eyes, with no crows feet—I want to look less tired.
d. Nada. I love what I’ve got.

2. If you were spring cleaning your life what five things would you throw out?

I would throw out

  • 30 pounds of weight
  • my need for naps
  • hangups from the past that still insist upon lingering
  • my occasional smartassness
  • my consistent indecision

3. If money were no object, what kind of house would you buy?

A very large, new sailboat – a live aboard – docked in a marina with all the amenities!

4. Have you ever visited an erotic massage parlor AND had a “happy ending”?

Never visited one.

Bonus: Using the handy chart, what is your butt type, spanked or not?  I think I am more cottage cheese, but with a bigger butt, while my Master says hot tamale.  awwww…Spanked I would have to say usually results in a pattern like biased, maybe sometimes pattycake.

(click to enlarge)

Spankification: Types of Spanked Butts by Dioneo Daspanca, 2011

Spankification: Author of original types of butts poster unknown.
Types of Spanked Butts by Dioneo Daspanca, 2011

————-

How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link totmituesdayblog from your website!

Please…not the vibrator

I don’t know why.  Maybe someone out there can help me.  I wonder why I feel bad sometimes when my Master wants me to use the vibrator.  Sometimes I know that I don’t want it and I will actually try to hide it just a little.  I usually keep it in my bra drawer, but occasionally, I will move it to a different drawer, rather innocently I proclaim that I can’t find it.  I guess I wish that sex were longer and I want more of it, and so I don’t want the vibe.   And I feel it’s kind of like I failed.  😦

So, let’s talk about orgasm.  I LOVE to orgasm.  Orgasms are very different for me and as the years and my sex life have expanded, so have my orgasms.  I used to cum so very, very quickly through masturbation.  Then when i was introduced to a vibe, I realized that I could cum in less than a minute,  every single time.  But, then when my Master started making me use a vib slowly after cumming and keep continuing the vib, then I learned to prolong the orgasm buildup, which is so delectable, you know.  Now, I, cum usually after a long time of buildup with a vibe.  When I do cum, now, it is so freakin’ powerful that I scream. I used to be able to have a ‘silent’ orgasm.  uh, no more…well, actually, i can cum somewhat quieter when i am using my fingers.  (Actually, the first time that I ever screamed was not with a vibe, but actually with my Master. MMMmmmmmm..)  I remember it so distinctly.  I was at my Master’s apartment and it was daytime and we fucked in his bedroom and I was building up to an incredible orgasm and I screamed.  My Master covered my mouth with his hand and instantly i was absolutely mortified.  First, because that had never happened before and second, because his roommate heard.  or maybe it was the neighbor.  I can’t remember now.

And now, wonderfully, I can have multiple orgasms, with the vibe.   And when I say multiple, I’m talking multiple screaming orgasms…wow…it is awesome.

I always love, love, love it when I’m using the vibe, but initially I do not want the vibe.  I want my Master to be doing the making me cum, not me using a vibe on myself.  So initially I say…please, not the vibe.

The “L” word

Feeling like I’m missing something lately and it must be, of course, my kink.

Sometimes when I start to delve, though, I just start feeling down.  I guess because I can’t have it right now.  Not really sure.  But starting to delve again, anyway.

I get on my treadmill and pull up netflix to watch while walking.  I look under the ‘most popular on netflix’ section and THE L WORD pops out at me.  L standing for Lesbian.  I am not a Lesbian, but I do like sex and I’ve had sex with women, so this looked interesting.

First episode thoughts:  I see a L couple that wants to have a baby and looking for a donor.  Apparently, they are not having much sex lately.  (Boy, can I relate.)  But they love each other.  Then there is the hot scene of two L in the pool.  hot. And then there is the storyline of the gf who has just moved to LA to be with her bf and she is approached by a L.  OMG it is h.o.t.  I think the reason why I am finding it so hot is because she finds that she likes this girl, they have a few things in common, and the girl is obviously interested in her.  I think that she doesn’t know whether it is friendship or flirting, but I think she thinks it is just friendship.  At the party where she meets this girl, when she goes to the bathroom, the girl follows her into the bathroom and starts kissing on her.  She resists, sort of, and then gives in to the kissing and then confused, runs out and leaves the party.  She then goes home to suck and fuck her bf.  Maybe to prove to herself that yes, she loves sex with her bf.  It is really delicious!