Kink versus Fetish….What Does It All Mean?

People use the words kink, kinky and fetish all the time.  “ooooo…kinky”  or “I have such a fetish for chocolate covered cherries!”  However, what do the words REALLY mean?

KINK – unconventional sexual taste or behavior or  a clever unusual way of doing something

FETISH –  a need or desire for an object, body part, or activity for sexual excitement
In other words, kink can also be a fetish, but not necessarily, while a fetish is always a kink.
Let’s say someone enjoys being spanked or whipped in the realm of sex.  Let’s say it is a turn-on or it enhances some part of getting aroused. Then for that person, spanking is a kink.   If that person NEEDS to be spanked in order to become aroused or maybe even to orgasm, then it is not just a kink, anymore.  It is now a fetish.
Oh, but there are so, so many more kinks than just being spanked or whipped.  The list is almost inexhaustible.
What are some different kinks?  Here is a list to get you started…abrasion, age play, anal sex, anal plugs, animal roles – like puppy, pony, and kitten, arm and leg sleeves, asphyxiation, auctioned for charity, bathroom use control, bestiality, beating, blindfolds, biting or being bitten, blowjobs (giving/receiving head), bondage, branding, boot worship, bondage, breast whipping, brown showers (scat), cages or closets, caning, catheterization, chastity belts, chauffeuring, choking, clothespins, cock worship, collars, competitions, corsets, cuffs, cutting, dilation, double penetration (as in pussy and ass), electricity, enemas, chastity, examinations, exercise (forced), exhibitionism, eye contact restrictions, face slapping, fantasy abandonment, fantasy rape, fantasy gang-rape, fisting (anal and/or vaginal), foot worship, forced dressing, forced homosexuality, forced masturbation, forced nudity, hoods, gags, golden showers, hand spankings, implementation spankings, hair pulling, hand jobs (giving and/or receiving), harems, harnessing, food control, clothing control,  high heel worship, homage with tongue, hot oils, hot wax, housework, humiliation, hypnotism, ice cubes, infantilism, injections, interrogations, kidnapping, kneeling, leather clothing, lecturing, manicures, massage, medical scenes, modeling, photographing, videoing, mouth bits, mummification, nipple clamps, nipple weights, clit clamps, clit weights, vaginal lip clamps, vaginal lip weights, ball clamps, ball weights, oral/anal play, spanking, orgasm control, outdoor sex, phone sex, piercings, public exposure, pussy/cock whipping, pussy worship, riding crops, rituals, religious scenes, rubber/latex, saran wrappings, sensory deprivation, serving as furniture, serving as maid or waiter or waitress, serving as art or table decor, serving others, shaving (body and/or head), sleep deprivation, speculums, spreader bars, standing in corner, stocks, straight jackets, dildos, suspension, supplying new partners, swallowing semen, swallowing urine, swapping, swinging, tattooing, teasing, tickling, vibrators, voyeurism, water torture, and whipping.
So, what are your kinks?  or fetishes?  or are you still exploring?  …..like me.  🙂

My Responses to Kinky 102

So here we go.

  1. How many sexual partners have you had?
    A) 0.
    *B) 1-10.
    C) 10-30.
    D) More than 30.
    E) I fucked so many people I’ve lost count.
  2. Do you use a condom when you fuck?
    A) Always.
    *B) If there’s no need (regular partner, other contraception etc) there is no need to use them.
    C) I know the risks but sometimes I would just rather fuck bareback.
    D) Only for anal or if I think my partner could give me an STD.
    E) I always fuck bareback, despite the risks.
  3. How often do you masturbate?
    A) Never.
    B) Only occasionally.
    *C) Fairly regularly.
    D) Most days.
    E) At least once a day.
  4. Have you had any one night stands?
    A) No.
    B) Just one.
    *C) Less than 5.
    D) More than 5.
    E) I want to fuck as many people as possible.
  5. Have you had an affair?
    A) No.
    B) No, but I’ve come close
    *C) Once.
    D) I’ve had a few.
    E) I’m a serial adulterer.
  6. Do you differentiate between porn and erotica
    A) No, they’re just different names for the same thing and I don’t like ether.
    B) They’re different and I only like erotica.
    C) They’re exactly the same thing and I like it.
    D) They’re different and I only like porn.
    *E) They are very different and I like both.  (Actually, erotica is any artistic work that is arousing, while porn is only one form.)
  7. How do you feel about the term pervert?
    A) It describes people who do sexual things that I disapprove of.
    B) It describes people who do sexual things I wouldn’t try, but that’s their business.
    C) It’s just a word.
    D) Some people might call me a pervert but I don’t think I am.
    *E) I’m proud to be a pervert. (I think our society has deemed perverted to mean anything sexual at all, basically.)
  8. How do you feel about the word cunt?
    A) I don’t like it.
    B) I don’t mind it, but I don’t use it.
    C) It’s just a word.
    *D) It’s a great word I use for special occasions.  (It has it’s place. )
    E) I love everything about the word.
  9. Do you use porn on your own?
    A) I don’t like it and wouldn’t use it.
    B) I don’t mind it, but it doesn’t do much for me.
    C) I like it, but only use it occasionally.
    D) I like it and use it regularly.
    *E) I love it and use it all the time.
  10. Do you use porn with your partner?
    A) I won’t use porn.
    B) My partner likes it, so we use it for him/her.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) We both like it and use it occasionally.
    *E) We use it all the time.
  11. Have you masturbated someone else?
    A) No.
    B) No, but I’d like to try.
    C) Yes, but I don’t get turned on by it.
    *D) I love making my partner cum with my hands.
    E) I’d rather masturbate my partner than fuck them.
  12. Have you given oral sex to someone else?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, but I’d like to try.
    C) Yes, but I’m not really into it.
    *D) Yes, and I love it.
    E) Going down on someone is better than fucking.
  13. Have you received oral sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, but I’d like to.
    C) Yes, but I’m not really into it.
    *D) Yes, and I love it.
    E) Someone going down on me is better than fucking.
  14. When you or your partner ejaculates, where do you most like the semen?
    *A) In their/my pussy.(oooo….this is a hard one.  I said A because I love to be fucked and would rather be fucked than only suck cock.  If I can have both, then that is better!)
    B) In their/my mouth. (Spit)
    C) In their/my mouth. (Swallow)(I always swallow!!!  I can’t help it.!)
    D) On their/my tits or face.  (I love this as well!)
    E) In their/my arse.
  15. Which of the following positions do you most enjoy?
    A) Missionary.
    B) Cowgirl.
    *C) Doggy.
    D) 69.
    E) Something else.
  16. Do you remove your pubic hair?
    A) My bush is as nature intended.
    B) I’ve thought about it, but not done it.
    C) I cut it short but don’t shape it.
    D) It’s trimmed into a neat shape.
    *E) I’m hairless.
  17. If you remove your pubic hair how do you do it?
    A) My bush is as nature intended.
    B) I’ve tried shaving but stubble itch stops me doing it regularly.
    *C) I shave regularly.
    D) I get waxed regularly.
    E) I’ve had my pubes permanently removed eg laser.
  18. Have you dyed your pubes?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only once.
    C) No, but I might.
    *D) No, I’m always hairless.
    E) Yes. I dye my pubes to match my mood.
  19. Have you paid for sex?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, but I don’t have a problem with it.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, but only once.
    E) Yes, more than once
  20. Have you been paid for sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, but if I was desperate for money I’d think about it.
    C) No, but I wouldn’t mind being paid for sex.
    *D) Yes, but not any more. (But not as a prostitute.  My ex would “pay” me to give him blowjobs.   It more or less for fun!)
    E) Yes, I make my living from sex with other people
  21. Have you ever used sex to get something you wanted (other than money)?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, I haven’t, but I might in the right circumstances.
    C) Yes, I do sometimes, but I feel bad about it afterwards.
    *D) We all do it, one way or another. Sex is just another currency. (Yes, but only in the realm of the relationship I’m in.)
    E) Yes, I do it all the time, and I see nothing wrong with that.
  22. Have you visited a professional dominatrix or dungeon?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but I wouldn’t go again.
    *C) No, but I’d like to. (but only if my Master was there or wanted me to)
    D) I do occasionally.
    E) I’m a regular visitor.
  23. Would you let menstruation stop you having sex?
    A) Absolutely. The idea is horrible.
    B) I’d I probably stop if bleeding started mid-fuck.
    C) I’d I probably wouldn’t stop if bleeding started mid-fuck.
    *D) I don’t really have an issue with it, as long as my partner’s OK with it.
    E) It turns me on.
  24. What is the greatest number of people you’ve had a sex session with?
    A) 1.
    B) 2.
    *C) 3.
    D) 4.
    E) 5 or more.
  25. Have you had sex with more than one person in the same day, but not at the same time?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, but I wouldn’t mind.
    C) Yes, but I didn’t tell either partner.
    D) Yes, and I told one of my partners.
    *E) Yes, and I told both partners.
  26. Do you have sex with the lights on or off?
    A) I don’t like the lights on when I have sex.
    B) On, but only because my partner prefers it.
    C) Off, but only because my partner prefers it.
    D) I’m not really bothered.
    *E) On. It’s much better if you can see the body you’re fucking. (I actually prefer low light.)
  27. Do you like to talk dirty?
    A) No. It’s embarrassing.
    B) Yes, but I only do it for my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to be able to.
    D) Sometime it can be fun.
    *E) I can’t stop myself. (I have to…in response to my Master)
  28. Do you like your partner to talk dirty?
    A) No. I’d ask them to stop if they did.
    B) I don’t mind if my my partner talks dirty but I does nothing for me.
    C) I wish they would.
    D) Sometimes it can be fun.
    *E) I love to hear how much my partner is enjoying my body and to hear what they want to do with me.
  29. Have you used role play for sex?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, it’s fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big part of my sex life.
  30. Do you like to give orders when you’re having sex?
    A) No. I want to feel completely equal with my partner.
    B) I don’t see the point.
    C) I’d like to be.
    *D) No, I’m submissive.
    E) My slave must do what they’re told.
  31. Do you like to be given orders when you’re having sex?
    A) No. I want to feel completely equal with my partner.
    B) I don’t see the point.
    C) I’d like to be.
    D) No. I’m completely dominant.
    *E) I must always obey my master/mistress.
  32. Have you had phone sex?
    A) No. I only have sex in bed.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, it’s a great way to be intimate with my partner when they’re not around.
    E) Yes, it’s better than the real thing.
  33. Have you had webcam sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, it’s a great way to be intimate with my partner when they’re not around.
    E) Yes, it’s better than the real thing.
  34. Have you tried sexting?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what it was.
    B) No, and I wouldn’t.
    C) No, it’s just something that kids do.
    D) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    *E) Yes, I love doing it.
  35. Where in your home have you fucked?
    A) Nowhere.
    *B) Only in bed.
    C) In bed and one other room.
    D) In most or all of the rooms.
    E) In the garden/yard.
  36. Where have you had sex that wasn’t at home or in a bedroom?
    *A) A hotel or the bedroom at a friends house.
    *B) A forest or somewhere you were unlikely to get caught.
    C) An public toilet, the changing room in a department store etc or somewhere where there was a small chance you could have been caught.
    *D) An alley or park at night, or somewhere you could easily have been caught.
    *E) An alley or park during the day, or somewhere you expected to get caught.
  37. Have you had sex in a car?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, but I’d like to.
    *C) Yes, it was parked.
    *D) Yes, it was moving and I was a pasenger.
    E) Yes, it was moving and I was the driver.
  38. Have you licked semen / pussy juices from your own fingers?
    A) No, that’s horrible.
    B) No, but I’d be happy to.
    C) Yes, but I didn’t like.
    D) Yes, to turn my partner on.
    *E) Yes. I love it.
  39. Have you licked semen / pussy juices from your partners fingers?
    A) No, that’s horrible.
    B) No, but I’d be happy to.
    C) Yes, but I didn’t like.
    D) Yes, to turn my partner on.
    *E) Yes. I love it.
  40. Have you sniffed someone else’s worn underwear?
    A) No, that’s just weird.
    B) Yes, I have, but it did nothing for me.
    *C) No, but I might try it.
    D) I like the smell of my partner’s sex and sniffing their underwear reminds me of them.
    E) I’ve bought soiled underwear and nasrurbated over it. (I don’t think you can do that in this country, though I’ve heard you can do it in Japan?)
  41. Have you ever tried feltching?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what it was.
    B) I haven’t tried it and don’t like the idea.
    *C) I haven’t tried it but I’d give it a go.
    D) I’ve tried it but didn’t like it.
    E) I love it.
  42. Have you ever tried snow balling?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what it was.
    *B) I haven’t tried it and don’t like the idea.
    C) I haven’t tried it but I’d give it a go.
    D) I’ve tried it but didn’t like it.
    E) I love it.
  43. Have you rimmed your partner?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what it was.
    B) I haven’t tried it and don’t like the idea.
    *C) I haven’t tried it but I’d give it a go.
    D) I’ve tried it but didn’t like it.
    *E) I love it.
  44. Has your partner ever rimmed you?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what it was.
    B) I haven’t tried it and don’t like the idea.
    C) I haven’t tried it but I’d give it a go.
    D) I’ve tried it but didn’t like it.
    *E) I love it.
  45. Has your anus been masturbated (by yourself or someone else) or have you had a butt plug up your arse?
    A) No, that’s not for me.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No but I might try it.
    *D) Yes, it’s a nice sensation sometimes.
    E) I need it to cum.
  46. Have you anally masturbated someone else or put a butt plug up their arse?
    A) No, that’s not for me.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No but I’d like to try it.
    *D) Yes, it’s fun to do if my partner is into it.
    E) Yes. I love to play with my partner’s forbidden hole.
  47. Have you tried getting fucked in the arse (with a cock or strap-on)?
    A) No, that’s not for me.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No but I’d like to try it.
    *D) Yes, it’s fun, if I’m in the mood.
    E) Yes. I can’t get enough of it.
  48. Have you tried fucking someone else’s arse (with your cock or strap-on)?
    A) No, that’s not for me.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    *C) No but I’d like to try it.
    D) Yes, it’s fun to do if my partner is into it.
    E) Yes, you can’t beat it.
  49. Do you get turned on by someone else wearing uniform?
    A) No, I don’t understand people who do.
    B) No, but I do understand why some people do.
    C) I do, but I couldn’t act on it.
    *D) I can get turned on by someone in uniform but they’ve got to be good looking too.
    E) I find it hard not to jump on anyone in uniform.
  50. Have you used handcuffs during sex?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    *E) Restraint makes sex better.
  51. Have you used rope, bondage tape etc during sex?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    *E) Restraint makes sex better.
  52. Do you own sex toys?
    A) No, I don’t want to.
    B) No, but I’d like to.
    C) Yes, I have one.
    *D) Yes I have a small number.
    E) I really don’t need as many as I’ve got!
  53. If you own sex toys, did you go to a physical sex store to buy them?
    A) I don’t have any.
    B) No, and I wouldn’t go into a sex shop.
    *C) Yes, but I felt uncomfrotable in the store.
    *D) Yes, I went with my partner and we chose a toy together.
    E) I find it dificult to walk past a sex shop without buying something.
  54. If you own sex toys, did you buy them online?
    A) I don’t have any.
    B) No, and I wouldn’t buy sex toys online.
    *C) I wouldn’t want my personal detail connected to sex toys so prefer to buy from a physical shop. (I don’t really care about the personal detail, but I’ve never bought online.)
    D) Yes, but not often.
    E) I’ve bough quite a few sex toys online and regularly look at their websites.
  55. Have you visited a fetish store (physical or online) with the intention of making a purchase?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    *B) No but I’m curious.
    C) Yes, but just to look.
    D) Yes. I didn’t expect to buy anything but I did.
    E) Yes. I knew what I wanted to buy.
  56. What style of underwear do you usually wear?
    1. Women
      *A) Plain panties.
      *B) Plain boy shorts.
      *C) Lace panties or boy shorts.
      *D) Thongs or G-strings.
      *E) Commando. (What can I say?  I like variety. )
    2. Men
      A) Y-fronts.
      B) Boxers or trunks.
      C) Commando.
      D) Bulge enhancing briefs or trunks.
      E) Thongs or G-strings.
  57. Have you worn sexy underwear just for sex?
    A) No. All my underwear is modest.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I like the idea.
    *D) Yes, I do sometimes.
    E) I only own sexy underwear.
  58. Which of the following are your favourite?
    A) Bodies / body stockings.
    *B) Camisoles & teddies.
    *C) Stockings & suspenders.
    D) Crotchless panties & peep hole bras.
    *E) Basques & corsets. (I don’t own any corsets, but I want to.)
  59. Have you dressed up for role play sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes. (I would like to have a lot more!)
    E) Yes, I have a large collection of outfits just for sex.
  60. Have you worn leather as part of sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    *C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, I like leather.
    E) I need leather to get turned on.
  61. Have you worn rubber?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    *C) No, but I’d like to. (If my Master wanted me to, but I don’t really think he has a thing for it.)
    D) Yes, I like rubber.
    E) I need rubber to get turned on.
  62. Do you enjoy kink away from home? (eg wearing a butt plug to work, rubber under your business suit, a butterfly vibrator to church etc)
    A) No, I don’t do that sort of thing ever.
    B) No, I keep it just for sex at home.
    *C) No but I’d like to. (But depends on where.  For work, it would have to be comfortable. )
    *D) Yes, I love to be secretly kinky at work. (Depends on what thought.  It would have to be comfortable, but it would be fun to wear something sexy to remind me all day of my Master.)
    E) Yes, and all my colleagues know.
  63. Do you use teasing as part of foreplay?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes. (Actually, it is more my Master teasing me.  He loves to do that.)
    E) It always makes better.
  64. Have you tried spanking someone?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t want to.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun.
    E) It’s a big turn on for me and I like to leave marks on my partner.
  65. Have you been spanked?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t want to.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun.
    *E) It’s a big turn on for me and I like my partner to leave marks on me.
  66. Have you ever used a whip, paddle, riding crop, flogger, cane etc as part of sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t want to.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun.
    *E) It’s a big turn on for me. (That is for my Master to use it on me.)
  67. Have you tried water sports or golden shower?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what that meant.
    B) No, that’s disgusting.
    C) Yes, but it did nothing for me.
    D) No, but I’d like to.
    *E) Yes, I love it. (My Master has done this to me.  It makes me feel used by him for his pleasure, which is a turn on for me.)
  68. Have you tried hard sports?
    *A) I had to click on the link to find out what that meant. (Although, I pretty much guessed from last question.)
    *B) No, that’s disgusting.
    C) Yes, but it did nothing for me.
    D) No, but I’d like to.
    E) Yes, I love it.
  69. Have you been naked in public (other than at the gym, doctors etc)?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    *B) I’m not confident enough about my body.
    *C) I’d happily go to a nudist beach, but nothing more.
    *D) I’d like to try flashing or streaking. ( I have flashed for my Master at his request.)
    E) Yes, I’m a compulsive exhibitionist.
  70. Have you had sex out doors?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) No, I’d be too concerned about getting caught.
    C) Yes, but only because my partner wanted to
    D) No, but I’d like to.
    *E) Yes, I love it. (Although I am very nervous and scared as well as turned on.)
  71. Have you used a blindfold, hood or mask as part of sex?
    A) No, I need eye contact with my partner.
    B) I have, but didn’t like it.
    C) I might, but the idea does nothing for me.
    D) It can be fun sometimes.
    *E) Yes, not knowing what my partner is about to do is very horny. (It’s the vulnerability factor as well as it heightens other senses.)
  72. Have you been to a fetish club?
    A) I didn’t know there were such things.
    B) No, it sounds freaky.
    C) Yes, I’ve been to one for my partner but didn’t like it.
    *D) No, but I’d like to. (I have been to a swinger’s club once, though)
    E) Yes, I go regularly.
  73. Have you tried breath play?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what it is.
    B) No, and I wouldn’t.
    C) Yes, but I didn’t like it.
    D) No, but I’d like to try it.
    *E) Yes, it’s a big turn on. (I enjoy a little of this.  Not sure if full blown strangling is doe me.)
  74. Have you used anything like a bottle, hair brush, vaccuum cleaner etc as part of penetrative sex?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I might.
    D) Yes, they’re cheaper than sex toys.
    *E) Yes, I’ll happily fuck anything.
  75. Have you used food as part of penetrative sex?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I might.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    *E) Yes, I’ll happily fuck anything.
  76. Have you used chocolate body paint or edible underwear?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) Where can I get some.
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, I always have some by the bed.
  77. Have you used menthol sweets, ginger root, chile juice etc as part of sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but I didn’t like it.
    C) No but I’d like to try.
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes. (How about alka seltzer?  ;))
    E) I love it. Sweet agony.
  78. Have you used hot wax as part of sex?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but I didn’t like it.
    C) No but I’d like to try.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    *E) I love it. Sweet agony.
  79. Have you used a speculum or sound for sexual purposes?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t. (I don’t think I would like it, but I would do anything for my Master.)
    B) Yes, but I didn’t like it.
    C) No but I’d like to try.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big turn on.
  80. Have you tried vaginal fisting?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t. (I don’t think I would like that.  And I have such a tight pussy, that I wouldn’t want to change that by stretching it too much.)
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to try
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big turn on.
  81. Have you tried anal fisting?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t. (It just seems that would hurt too much or maybe cause damage.)
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to try
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big turn on.
  82. Have you tried double vaginal penetration?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t. (That sounds very painful and perhaps cause permanent damage?)
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to try
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big turn on.
  83. Have you tried double anal penetration?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t. (That sounds very painful and perhaps cause permanent damage?)
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to try
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big turn on.
  84. Have you been part of a double blow job?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to try
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, it’s a big turn on.
  85. Have you taken photos of yourself, or a partner, naked?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    *E) I have lots. (But would like to do more!)
  86. Have you given naked photos of yourself to someone else?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but I’d rather I hadn’t.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, a few times.
    *E) Lots of people have naked pictures of me. (Especially if you are counting my blog.)
  87. Have naked photos of you appeared on the internet with your consent?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t permit it.
    B) Yes, but I changed my mind after.
    C) No but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, but you can’t see my face in them.
    E) Yes, I’m a regular contributor to amateur porn sites.
  88. Have you had sex in front of a video camera?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but only to please my partner.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, I’ve made lots of amateur porn films.
  89. Have you appeared in a commercially available porn movie?
    *A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but I wish I hadn’t.
    C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, I’ve been in one porn movie.
    E) Yes, I’m a porn star.
  90. Do you have any body piercings? (Ears don’t count.) 
    A) None.
    B) No, but I’m thinking about getting one.
    *C) Facial or naval.
    D) Tongue or nipple.
    E) Genital, sub-dermal, or other area of your body.
  91. Have you worn your partners underwear?
    *A) No that’s weird.
    B) Only when I’ve run out of my own clean underwear.
    C) Yes, but it didn’t turn me on.
    D) I cross dress all the time.
    E) Yes, but they don’t know.
  92. Have you ever used a leg spreader?
    A) I had to click on the link to find out what one is.
    B) No, and I wouldn’t.
    *C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    *E) The wider the spread, the hornier I am. (Does being tied with legs spread count?)
  93. Have you ever used nipple clamps (or put clothes pegs on nipples)?
    A) No, and I wouldn’t.
    B) Yes, but I didn’t like it.
    C) No, but I’d like to try.
    *D) Yes, it can be fun sometimes.
    E) Yes, I need them to cum.
  94. Have you used a penis pump, ball pump or clit pump?
    A) I’ve never heard of them.
    B) No, and I think they’re probably dangerous.
    C) Yes, but just to please my partner.
    *D) No, but I’d like to. (If it wasn’t dangerous.)
    E) Yes, I love it.
  95. Have you worn (non piercing) genital jewellery?
    A) No and I wouldn’t.
    B) No. The idea does nothing for me but I would for my partner.
    *C) No, but I’d like to.
    D) I’ve worn a vajazzle / pejazzle / merkin.
    E) I love wearing my clit clip / glans crown.
  96. Have you tried electro sex?
    A) No. I had to click on the link to find out what it was.
    B) No and I wouldn’t.
    C) Yes, but it did nothing for me.
    *D) No but I’d like to.
    E) Yes, it’s awesome.
  97. Do you get aroused by genito-urinary or gynaecological examinations?
    A) No. I can’t imagine how anyone could.
    B) No, but I can understand how some people might.
    *C) The fantasy turns me on, but not the reality.
    D) Yes, but I don’t let it show.
    E) Yes, and the medical practice have told me to stop making appointments when I don’t need to. (LOL)
  98. Have you visited an STI clinic?
    A) No, I’ve never needed to.
    B) Yes, but Ive only needed to once.
    C) No, but I’d be very happy to if I thought there was a need.
    D) Yes, I’ve been tested several times.
    *E) I get tested regularly. (But through my regular exams, not at an STD clinic.)
  99. How often would you really like to fuck?
    A) I’m not bothered.
    B) Every month or two is enough.
    C) Once or twice a month.
    D) At least twice a week.
    *E) At least once a day.
  100. How often would you want to fuck in order to consider a relationship healthy?
    A) A good relationship doesn’t need sex.
    B) When I or my partner feel horny.
    C) At least once a month.
    D) At least once a week.
    *E) At least once a day. (But only if both parties were up to it.  Otherwise, I’d say at least 3 times per week.)
  101. Would you like anything like bigger tits, a bigger cock, smaller labia, lower hanging balls etc?
    A) No, my body is how nature made it and that’s how it should stay.
    *B) I’d quite like it, but I wouldn’t do anything about it.
    C) No, I think my body is sexy enough without changing it.
    D) Yes, I’d like to.
    E) I’ve have plastic surgery to make my body better for sex.
  102. And finally, how kinky do you think this survey is?
    A) Very kinky and it embarrassed me.
    B) Very kinky, and quite eye opening.
    *C) A bit kinky, but not shocking. ( I was kind of expecting more, but that’s ok.  I still had fun answering the questions.)
    D) Quite kinky and lots of fun.
    E) Not kinky at all.

And I think my final score is 281.  I may have to recount that though.  🙂

Kinky 102

I’m excited to try this survey! Thanks to AC!

Accidental Masturbator

When I recently stumbled upon a Kinky 101 online quiz, it won’t surprise you to know, Loyal Reader, that my interest was pricked. As I worked through the questions, I quickly came to the conclusion it wasn’t very kinky. Reading between the lines, I’d guess that it was written by a girl in her late teens, who had had sex a few times, and possibly French kissed another girl, but who had never properly acquainted herself with the world of kink..

Although in the early days of my blogging, one of my readers commented You’re a kinky little thing, I’ve never regarded myself as really kinky, just slightly kinky. But frustrated at the questionnaire’s un-kinkyness, I never completed it. Instead I put together my own Kinky 102. (It’ staken a massive amount of work so please read all this post!)

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101 KINKY QUESTIONS ANSWERED ABOUT ME!

Not sure where I got these 101 questions…

1. Have you ever slept naked?

YES, BUT ODDLY ENOUGH, I PREFER NOT.  LOL .  I USUALLY SLEEP IN A TANK AND PAJAMA BOTTOMS OR SWEATS.

2. Have you ever masturbated?

WEIRD QUESTION BECAUSE HONESTLY I CAN’T IMAGINE ANYONE THAT HASN’T?  I OFTEN MASTURBATE IN THE SHOWER, BUT NOT AS MUCH LATELY.

3. What’s your bra size, or dick length?

34C

4. Where was your first time?

MY FIRST TIME WAS WITH A BOYFRIEND AT ANOTHER FRIEND’S HOUSE.  I DON’T THINK HE WAS ABLE TO GET ALL THE WAY IN ME.  THE NEXT TIME WE MADE OUT IT WAS IN HIS CAR AND HE FINGERED ME SO HARD THAT I BLED…A LOT.  THE NEXT TIME WE HAD SEX HE WAS ABLE TO GET IN ME ALL THE WAY.  I THINK THAT IS BECAUSE IT WAS IN THE CAR THAT I “LOST MY CHERRY” SO TO SPEAK.  WHY DO THEY SAY THAT ANYWAY?

5. Have you ever gotten sexual with anything that wasn’t a person?

OF COURSE….UH BY MYSELF – VIBRATOR AND WEIRDLY ENOUGH – CELERY!  LOL  

6. Have you ever shown anyone your body parts and asked advice?

MY MASTER.  

8 . Do you prefer doing it in the dark or in the light?

I ACTUALLY PREFER FUCKING IN LOW LOW LIGHT BUT NOT DARK.

9. What’s your greatest fantasy?

MY GREATEST FANTASIES  JUST ENTAIL BEING DOMINATED BY MY MASTER.  HAVING HIM GET COMPLETE SATISFACTION FROM ME IN WHATEVER WAY HE WANTS…BY CAUSING ME PHYSICAL PAIN, SERVICING HIM OR WHOMEVER HE CHOOSES AND WITH WHOMEVER HE CHOOSES.  MY MASTER DOING TO ME AS HE WISHES AND ME KNOWING IT IS BECAUSE IT MAKES HIM HAPPY.  BEING TOLD I’M A GOOD GIRL!

10. Would you suck on anyone’s toes?

THE THOUGHT DOES NOT TURN ME ON IN THE LEAST, BUT OF COURSE IF MY MASTER TOLD ME TO, I WOULD.

11. Where do you think would be the weirdest place to have sex?

WEIRDEST?  HMMM…THERE ARE A LOT OF INAPPROPRIATE PLACES TO HAVE SEX, SUCH AS A CHURCH.

12. Would you have sex there? 

I WOULD PREFER NOT.

13. How old were you the first time?

EIGHTEEN FOR INTERCOURSE

14. Would you ever have lesbian or gay sex?

YES, I HAVE PLAYED WITH A FEW WOMEN AND I ENJOY IT.

15. What do you think the sexiest fruit is?

I THINK PEACHES, BECAUSE THEY ARE SO JUICY!

16. Would you ever have an orgy with the same-sex?

THAT COULD BE FUN.  I’VE BEEN TOLD THAT I CAN EAT PUSSY WELL.

17. What and who turns you on?

MY MASTER TURNS ME ON BIG TIME BY DOMINATING ME IN ALL KINDS OF WAY.  JUST COMMANDING ME MAKES ME HOT.  WHEN HE TREATS ME HARSHLY, IT ALSO TURNS ME ON.  

WHEN THE OTHER PERSON GETS TURNED ON, THEN I GET REALLY HOT.  BEING WANTED IS THE BEST APHRODISIAC OF ALL!

18. Have your hands ever been down anyone’s pants?

WHY YES, YES THEY HAVE.  I LOVE TO REACH INSIDE MY MASTER’S PANTS AND GRAB A HOLD OF HIS HARD COCK.  HE DOESN’T WEAR UNDERWEAR.

19. What superstar would you have sex with?

No one, really. Celebs don’t really do it for me.

20. Have you or anyone else ever stuck anything down your pants?

I’VE HAD ICE PUT DOWN MY PANTS.  NOT SEXY…JUST COLD!

21. Have you ever had a dream about being gay or lesbian?

OCCASIONALLY

22. Are you gay or lesbian?

I DON’T CONSIDER MYSELF TO BE, PERHAPS BI

24. Have you ever made a guy get hard?

MANY TIMES!  ISN’T IT FUN!

25. Have you ever counted your pubic hairs?

I SHAVE….ALL OF IT.

26. Would you rather be cute or sexy?

I’D RATHER BE SEXY, BUT THINK I’M DOOMED TO BE ONLY CUTE.  I GUESS DOOMED WILL ACTUALLY OCCUR WHEN I’M TOO OLD TO BE CUTE.  HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF SOMEONE OLD AND CUTE?

27. How many people would you have sex with at once?

AS MANY AS MY MASTER SAYS, OF COURSE.  I’VE HAD SEX A FEW TIMES WITH MY MASTER AND ANOTHER COUPLE, ALL TOGETHER.  IT IS A LOT OF FUN.

28. Have you ever put on a strip show?

I’M ACTUALLY A LITTLE SHY, SO NO.  

29. Have you ever seen a strip show?

NO, UNLESS TV COUNTS.

30. Have you ever seen any of your friends naked?

NOT MY CURRENT FRIENDS, BUT THROUGH THE YEARS, YES.

31. What’s your kinky fetish?

MY KINKS INCLUDE BASICALLY BEING DOMINATED.  AND SPANKED.

32. Have you ever had a fantasy about a teacher?

YES.  I USED TO FANTASIZE ABOUT THIS ONE PROFESSOR.  I USED TO FANTASIZE GOING TO HIS OFFICE AND HE WOULD FONDLE ME, MAKE ME TAKE MY CLOTHES OFF AND THEN FUCK ME.  

33. Have you ever had an orgasm?

YES.  I TAKE AWHILE TO CUM USUALLY, BUT WHEN I DO, I HAVE HUGE ORGASMS. LOVE IT!  I USUALLY SCREAM!

34. Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

YES.  ONCE MY SISTER AND A FEW GIRLFRIENDS WENT TO A NEIGHBOR’S POOL IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT, GOT NAKED AND SWAM IN THIER POOL.

35. Have you ever played with a condom?

NO, I WOULDN’T SAY THAT I HAVE PLAYED WITH A CONDOM.  BEEN FUCKED WITH A CONDOM? MANY TIMES!

36. If you could be a spice what would it be?

GINSENG

37. Would you use objects in sex such as whips, hand cuffs, etc.?

OH, YES!

38. Have you ever tried on a condom?

HAHA!  UH HOW? SINCE I’M WITHOUT A PENIS, THAT WOULD BE DIFFICULT.

39. Have you ever playfully spanked your lover?

I PREFER TO BE THE ONE SPANKED.

40. If someone says “spank me” do you do it and get turned on?

WHEN I READ ABOUT GETTING SPANKED, IT TURNS ME ON AND MAKES ME WANT TO BE SPANKED!

41. Have you ever worn your underwear two days in a row?

NO.I WOULD GO COMMANDO

42. Have you ever seen anyone’s dick?

YES.  AND FUCKED.  AND SUCKED.  AND MADE CUM.

44. Have you ever took a piss standing up or squatting in the woods?

YEP

45. What was the weirdest place you have ever done something with someone?

THE ROOF OF MY BOYFRIEND’S HOUSE.

46. What was the weirdest thing you have ever done to your b/f or g/f?

HMMM….HONESTLY CAN’T THINK OF ANYTHING WEIRD.  MAYBE WHEN I WAS A LITTLE DRUNK AND A LOT HORNY AND I BEGGED MY MASTER TO SMACK MY PUSSY BEFORE GETTING OFF.

47. What was the lamest thing your b/f or g/f did for you or to you?

ONCE I WAS IN A BATHING SUIT IN SUMMER AND ASKED TO PLEASE LET ME GIVE MY EX A BLOWJOB, HE SAID NO.  

48 . Have you ever wondered what position you would have sex in?

I DON’T HAVE TO WONDER, SINCE I DO HAVE SEX.  I LIKE ALL POSITIONS AND DOGGY STYLE IS MY FAVORITE , THOUGH I HAVE NEVER CUM IN THAT POSITION.  NEXT WOULD BE TIED WITH MISSIONARY ME ON BOTTOM AND ME ON TOP.  

49. Have you ever used a vibrator on yourself or somebody else?

BOTH AND I LIKE IT.  I ESPECIALLY LIKE THE VIBRATOR BECAUSE I CUM SO GOOD AND WANT TO CUM MULTIPLE TIMES.  THE ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT I WANT TO GO ON AND ON FOR LITERALLY HOURS, SO, I TRY NOT TO USE A VIBE ALL THE TIME.

52. Would you ever have sex in the ocean?

I WOULD LOVE TO.

53. Have you ever gotten sand up you? 

NO, BUT DON’T THINK I WOULD MIND.  I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO HAVE SEX ON THE BEACH.

54. Have you ever run or walked around your house nude?

ON OCCASION, BUT ONLY IF THERE ARE NO KIDS OR INLAWS AROUND AND WINDOWS ARE COVERED.  OR DID YOU MEAN WALKING LITERALLY AROUND …..UH NO.

55. What do you wear to bed?

USUALLY TANK AND PAJAMA BOTTOM PANTS AND SOCKS.

56. Have you ever done anything with someone in your parents bed?

NOT MY OWN PARENTS BED, BUT WHEN I WAS YOUNGER, MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAD SLEPT A FEW NIGHTS IN HIS PARENTS BED WHILE THEY WERE OUT OF TOWN AND I ACCIDENTALLY LEFT MY EARRINGS ON THE HEADBOARD.  OOPS!

57. Would you ever consider rubbing hot oil or cream all over your guy or girl?

SURE, BUT MY MASTER DOESN’T LIKE FRESH LOTION OR OIL ON MY, SO I HIGHLY DOUBT HE WOULD GO FOR THAT.  I HAVE RUBBED SEX OIL ON HIS COCK THOUGH.  MMMM….

59. Have you ever used lubricant?

YES.  I LOVE THE WARMING KIND.

61. Have you ever fingered yourself, got fingered before or fingered someone else?

YES, YES, AND YES

64. Have you ever given or received a hand job or blow job?

GIVEN HAND JOBS AND BLOW JOBS AND I’M TOLD I’M VERY GOOD.

66. Have you ever tasted cum or female juice?

YES, AND YES.

68. What does the number “69″ mean to you?

GIVING EACH OTHER ORAL AT THE SAME TIME!

70. How old were you when you got your first real kiss? 

I THINK ABOUT 11.

72. Have you ever done anything with anyone in a pool, hot tub, or bath tub?

PLAYED AROUND AND FONDLED A LOT IN A HOT TUB.  HAD SEX IN A BATH TUB.  I’VE ENJOYED GIVING A BATH TO MY MASTER IN A BATHTUB.

74. Have you ever tied up or hand cuffed anybody?

I’VE BEEN BOTH TIED AND CUFFED BY MY MASTER.

77. Were you a witness to someone having sex?

OH, YES.  I’VE HAD SAME ROOM SEX WITH A FEW COUPLES AS WELL AS WATCHED MY MASTER FUCK ANOTHER WHILE I WAS FUCKED.

80. Would you ever have phone sex?

I HAVE. YES.  ITS FUN UNTIL YOU HAVE IT 24/7.

81. Do you go by the rhythm of music?

I ENJOY SEX WITH BACKGROUND MUSIC.

84. Would you ever have sex with your best friend or someone you don’t even know?

MY MASTER IS MY BEST FRIEND, SO YES.  AND YES TO THE LAST PART, TOO, AS LONG AS MY MASTER TOLD ME TO.

85. Do you find physical pain like spanking an element of good sex?

IT IS A BIG TURN ON FOR ME.

86. Do you find older women or men attractive?

YES, YES, I DO.

87. Would you rather have sex with or without a condom? 

NO DOUBT. WITHOUT.  BUT, MY MASTER WOULD NEVER ALLOW THAT IF WE WERE PLAYING OUTSIDE OF US.

88. Who was the person you kissed that was the best?

MY MASTER.

89. If you had a half an hour to spend with your b/f or g/f what would you do?

GENERALLY, I WOULD GO FOR WHATEVER MY MASTER WANTED.  

90. If you only had 20 minutes left to live what would you do?

SAY MY LAST GOODBYES.

91. Which would you rather make out:A) On a stage in front of a lot of people you know? B) With your parents in the room?C) In front of an ex?

I WOULDN’T LIKE ANY OF THOSE, BUT IF I HAD TO CHOOSE, IT WOULD BE C.  ONLY BECAUSE IT SEEMS THE LESSER OF THE 3 EVILS.

95. What color is your hair (pubic)?

IF I HAD ANY, IT WOULD BE DARK BROWN.  BUT, I SHAVE.

98. Your love life is like which of these movies:

A) Something about Mary
B) Chasing Amy
C) My Girl 2
D) When Harry Met Sally
E) Fatal Attraction
F) Rated X (not for young viewers)

DEFINITELY RATED X.

99. Have you ever lost the keys to the cuffs or got stuck together?

NO

101. Would you do anyone on your blogroll? 

ONLY IF MY MASTER TOLD ME TO.  (NOT SURE I KNOW ENOUGH ABOUT ANY OF THEM YET.)

Day 1 of 30 DAYS OF SUBMISSION-Day 1 – Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label?

Day 1 – Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

I call myself a submissive.  I refer to my Master mostly by his actual name, and when answering say, “Yes, Sir” if we are in private, but when I am talking about him, I refer to him as Master.  He calls me his pet, good girl, my actual name, slut, cunt, bitch or whatever.  (But usually only cunt or bitch, if he is mad at me.)

Taken in Hand?  – No, though I do see the parallels in my own life.  My Master or Dominant if in charge and I totally agree/consent/want it to be that way.  I believe, as my own Master has taught me, that a good Master is one who values his submissive so much that he treasures her and seeks to make her happy so that he can, in turn, receive what he wants.

Domestic/Discipline – My Master definitely practices domestic discipline as in spankings, slaps, and other punishments, but I would describe our relationships as much more than that.  It also more sexual in nature.

Dominant/submissive is a more accurate description.  My Master is definitely the Dominant and I am definitely the submissive.

I also describe myself as owned.  And he does refer to me as his pet.

30 Days of Submission

Not sure where I found this – 30 DAYS OF SUBMISSION.  But, I LOVE questionnaires and 30 Days of Submission questions seems perfect to start right now!

I am trying to turn over a new leaf, as it is Fall and it seems the perfect time, don’t you think.  Actually, my Master and I are both on a mission to improve our relationship.  We are 24/7, husband and wife, met online, dated, married, and have  a real life, job, kids (though teens), parents to help out and so forth.  So, we don’t live in a cocoon and as often happens in long-term relationships, we have somewhat neglected ours.  But, upward and onward to change that.

I also have never felt like I was near enough deep enough into the BDSM lifestyle as I would like to be and I know my Master feels the same.  So I plan to attempt some real changes in my life.  (Which reminds me, I better review my rules.)

So, to all you submissives…please join me!!!

TMI Tuesday October 22, 2013

1. You’ve been waiting forever for your significant other to propose marriage, when they finally do it is in the form of a bribe: “Lose 10-15 lbs. (approx. 1 stone U.K.; approx. 6 kilos) and I will marry you…the wedding can be anyway, and anywhere of your choosing…just lose some weight.”

Would you accept this proposal?

I guess that depends on several factors.  Perhaps this is a Master telling his submissive to do something that is for her very own good.  Perhaps this if for her own self-image, which she may be complaining about.  On the other hand, if she felt like this was a factor in making him love her?  Uh, then no.  But, she should already know this before the proposal.

2. Are you participating in any Halloween festivities? Will you wear a costume? If yes, what?

I would absolutely LOVE to dress up and go to a Halloween party of some kind.  But, alas, no, I’m not.  Maybe another year.  I would love to wear a costume, whatever my Master might suggest.  Maybe a cat?  Or maybe a maid outfit.  It would be fun to go to a party that was not just to socialize at, but doing something – maybe some swinger fun or bdsm play.

3. Forget the fact that you have a blog, in real-life are you:

a. an over-sharer who tells every detail of your personal life to everyone including the barista at Starbucks?

b. a little discriminating in who you decide to talk to about your personal life, feelings, etc.? Your love life isn’t off limits to friends and family but you don’t confide in total strangers.

c. as tight as a clam? You don’t share important details with friends and family and when you do it about kills you because you are extremely private.

I guess it would be c.  I do share a little, but not much.

4. MEN your significant other has asked to sleep with your cock in his/her mouth, what are your first thoughts? Would you say yes or no? Why?

LADIES/significant other…your guy just asked you to sleep with his penis in your mouth. Would you do it? Why or why not?

My Master has asked me before to suck his cock first thing in the morning and I remember asking him if I could get up, pee, and have a drink of water first.  (I would also want to brush my teeth as I do first thing every morning.)  I guess he wasn’t too enthused with that compromise, because I never did it. I guess he never answered that question.  ??

Now, I think if he asked me to do it, I would change my mind and at least try.

Bonus: If you were remembered for one thing, what would it be?

I would wish to be thought of as sweet.  That’s it.

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Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

I choose  polyamory relationships.  I never in a million years would have thought I would even want to post about this, but when you are in love with someone, you are curious as to their wants and desires.  My Master has always stated that he would like to have two submissives.  He has stated that I would always be his number one submissive and that a second coming in would be just that – second.  And of course in our instance, it would be a female.  (Thus Master plus two female submissives)  I’m not sure how this would actually work and we have discussed at times how this would work.  Previously, my Master has said that usually a first sub is over a second sub, meaning that the second sub is subservient to the first.  However, in our relationship, I really don’t see how I could be comfortable or even have the ability to boss another sub around.  I mean it doesn’t make sense that I wouldn’t be able to, especially since in my job I do have an assistant and at times have had 2 and even 3 assistants.  But, it seems totally different to me.  When I am with my Master which is the 24/7 that I am not at my job or the gym, I am trying to focus on him (or should be) and I honestly don’t want to boss another around.  Also, I know that as far as sex goes, my Master would prefer to have sex with both subs at the same time?  Though, maybe I am wrong.  He wants to have sex, but not without me, but then again he often jokes that he needs to subs so that one can always be sucking his cock.  okay, whatever…  Anyway, in the sex department, I prefer to be dominated whether by male or female.  And then there is the whole jealousy thing.  …

What are the pros and cons of sharing your Master? – A blog post dictated by my Master.

My last post on this subject said that I was going to post the answer on tomorrow after I had thought about it. Needless to say, I continued to think about it. I’ve also been busy and not taken the time to write because I was sick with a bad cold for a week and then spent a week trying to catch up at work. But, my Master reminded me that I had better get busy with the posts, and my other chores, because the week is sliding by.
The pros and cons of sharing my Master. Where to start on this post? First background information. I have always known that my Master would love to have 2 or maybe 3 submissives. We talked about it way at the beginning of our getting to know each other phase. I remember telling him that I didn’t know if I could handle that – not being the ONLY one. He told me that he would never add someone until I was ready. Well, I thought, I will NEVER be ready, so I guess I don’t need to worry about that! As time progressed, I always knew that some of my Master’s great fantasies included other women. Before I met my Master, I had never had any kind of sexual experience with another woman. And then, gradually, gradually, over the time we have been together, I guess he (My Master) has really slowly put his plan into action. He’s so good, you know, that I never really saw it coming. But all that is another, or several other posts.
I think I will use the initials of PLAYING WITH OTHERS to help me discuss the PROS of this issue. I’m sure that I could think of a million things, both pro and con, but I’m going to go with this, I think.
PRO P – Being submissive, I really, really want to PLEASE my Master. Since I know that he wants to have other pussy, other than my own, then sharing my Master would definitely be a way to please him. It is quite amazing to myself to realize that I really and truly grow deeper into submission all the time, which shows itself to me in different ways, but one most significant is that I want to please him more and more as time goes by. He makes me want to, I think.
PRO L – I LOVE my Master and I know that he LOVES me. Because of this, I know that he would never do anything to break my trust in him. He promised long ago to take care of his precious treasure and so far he has kept his word and been the most awesome of all Masters, not to mention most awesome guy of all!
PRO A – APPEAL – There really is an appeal to this for me, too. I love sex, what can I say. And my Master says that he doesn’t want other sex without me. So if I can be involved, in some way, in all sex, even with another? Then it’s win/win for me, right?
PRO Y – YOURS – I’m his. enough said.
PRO I – INCREASED self-confidence with my abilities. When I please my Master, my self-confidence improves. When I submit to sex with another man or woman, per my Master, if I do a good job, as in I give an awesome blowjob, or eat some pussy to make some other girl happy, then my own self-confidence improves! After meeting up with another couple to have sex, and they want to meet again, I know that part of it is because my Master is really good, but also, I know that I have appeal, too. That’s especially nice when I hear compliments from the other couple to tell me that I have done a good job.
PRO N – NEW – new things are often fun and exciting!
PRO G – GOING OUT – Getting dressed up to go out and play is like going on a date with someone new as well as with your best friend! I love to get dressed up and go out. And I’m not talking about dressing up in BDSM gear, although, that sounds like it would be fun! I’m just talking about the anticipation of going out on a Friday or Saturday night, dressing up and looking good, or trying to look good. It’s a lot of fun!
PRO W – WIN/WIN – If I get to have fun, and at the same time, so does my Master, then it really is a win/win!
PRO I – INCREASED SELF-CONFIDENCE with my appearance. When I’m told by my Master that I am desirable, it is soo incredibly awesome. It is definitely multiplied when someone else confirms it. It makes me feel really good, when someone that I sucked off, tells my husband that it is the BEST blowjob that they’ve ever had! WOW! That really is a confidence booster! And if they talk about remembering their hands in my soft hair? Well, you KNOW that makes me want to go buy conditioner rather than the 2 in 1 shampoo/conditioner? Right??
PRO T – Man, if you can trust your guy to have sex with another woman and STILL want you the best? Then, really, REALLY you must have TRUST.
PRO H – HANGUPS – honestly, some hangups go out the window. Like how, for example? Well, I’m, shall we say, not in my 20’s. And if a 20 year old wants to fuck me, then I’m suddenly a MILF! That hangup? ….out the window!
PRO O – OTHERS?- actually, there can be a lot of fun in others… as I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing, due to my Master!
PRO T – TAKEN – Doesn’t that word just make you wet? Well, it does me. I love the thought of being MADE to submit. But, only because I have such trust in my Master. It’s taken me awhile to see what others meant when they said that. I mostly didn’t believe it. Time changes things, however.
PRO E – EXCITING – It really is exciting to go out with someone new. Remember the feeling? If you are in a stable relationship and have been for awhile, then you know remember how exciting it can be to date. It also is a drag to go home and wonder and wonder about where you stand and what the future holds. But if you already have that stability and yet can still have exciting times together with new experiences…it is simply awesome!
PRO R – REAL LIFE – After going out for a kinky night of fun, you then have to get to real life – back to job, maybe kids, your same old, same old. But if you can reminisce in your real life about how much fun you had, what you did and didn’t like about your last date with others, it can be enhancing! I say that because, my Master and I have had some awesome sex AFTER we came back from dates!
PRO S – SEX – And really, how can I resist that…especially if I must!

And now, the CONS, which are basically FEARS:
CON P – Fear of PHYSICAL PAIN – Being into BDSM and knowing there is a broad range of SM, I fear getting hurt. Not to get me wrong, I do like some pain. More than I used to think that I did. But I also don’t want to be seriously hurt, nor damaged. And I have an extremely sensitive clit, so direct stimulation can be painful. This is a real fear, if you are restrained. HOWEVER, my Master has done a very good job of protecting me when I’ve been with others (which has really not been that many experiences). He is very good at talking and getting into specifics before we play and to date we have played with more who were not into BDSM and none who were actually into s&m. For to me to submit to sex with others is me being dominated by him, so this kink can be satisfied without having for me to being submitted to another master or mistress.
CON L – LOSING love, affection, time together – another fear – that I might lose my Master’s love or affection to another. Again, he has stated that he doesn’t want sex without me, but I still have that fear.
CON A – AFFECTION for another – basically jealousy. Seeing my Master show affection to another can have conflicting emotions. On the one hand, I am often happy to see him show affection to someone because I know that it makes them feel good, just like I like it when I receive affection from someone else. But, still, the pangs of jealousy attack. And I’m also aware that this is a plus for my Master because he likes to see me a little jealous.
CON Y – YEARS from now – how will that play out? I fear this future because I am in my late 40’s now and age is not pretty. Men usually are able to “have” younger counterparts because it is socially and culturally acceptable. Older men are seen as distinguished and good looking when bald and/or gray. I myself am attracted to all kinds, including bald and gray. The funny thing is – my Master is SEVERAL years younger than me. Someday, it will be quite a bit more noticeable than it is now. Look at Hugh Heffner, the playboy mansion owner and mogul. Not only is he still considered sexy, but he has tons and tons of young girlfriends and has continued to marry over the years! There is no female counterpart in the business of sex.
CON I – ILLNESS – I am totally not interested in getting a transmittable disease or virus. ugh…enough said. That is the advantage of playing with couples, I think.
CON N – NEAR OR FAR – Sometimes we have gone to play with others quite some distance away. This is safer as far as the likelihood of meeting a coworker or something. Because I AM in the closet about my kinks. But driving far away to meet up with others is a pain, no doubt.
CON G – GAG – ok, so I have a gag reflex. I have been told that I give awesome blowjobs. I like that. I fear I may come upon more or less a rival that might not have a gag reflex and again, jealousy! Sometimes, I think that being able to give awesome head is a plus for me even if I feel bad about myself for other reasons. I really don’t want that taken away, but inevitably, playing with others will lend itself to eventually meeting someone with great ability also, or maybe even better.
CON W – WAKING to find something to make me jealous. So far in our play, we have only played for an evening. We have not spent the night anywhere. I know my Master has talked about getting a sub to live in. One that would be a girlfriend for me and a girlfriend for him, so to speak. I don’t know how that would EVER work out, because honestly I can’t see somebody wanting a place like that, but I guess there must be out there somewhere. But, in any case, we have often discussed, because I have asked, how certain things would work in his envisioning. We have discussed how a live-in sub would work – kind of like a roommate. I’ve asked about sleeping arrangements. He has talked about having a sub on each side of him. We used to have a king-sized bed, so that might have worked, I guess, but then I’ve often wondered how I would feel if I woke to see the two of them caressing or having sex? Or waking to see the two of them asleep, but with arms around each other or something else exclusionary. I know my Master tries to alleviate my fears, but jealousy is there.
CON I – INDIFFERENCE – Another fear. What if my Master started to see me with indifference? Or what if the other sub saw me indifferently? jealousy.
CON T – TEASING – My Master likes to tease me. It is true. However, sometimes teasing can be unknowingly hurtful or just to the right of jealousy.
CON H – HUMILIATE – I know that my Master actually enjoys some humiliation of me. And I also know that he refrains because he does not want to hurt me. I can appreciate this venue of domination. I’m afraid, as jealousy once again rears it’s ugly head, that humiliation might become more prominent and perhaps might even come from another sub geared toward me. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I might even enjoy it, because of the vulnerability factor, the smallness feeling factor. But, I also know that my Master thinks of me as his treasure, so I know that he loves me despite a humiliating scene. I’m not sure about another sub. Or what if the other sub started receiving what I thought should be for me?
CON O – ORGASMS – You would think that this would be in the pro section. Here is the thing. I take a very long time to reach orgasm. On the one hand, it makes for awesome orgasms. On the other hand, I’m jealous of those that reach it so easily, even if it only appears to be a small orgasm. What if in playing with others, I see that happening and become extremely jealous. I guess in this particular instance, I am thinking of a long-term second sub, because when we play with others, I do not usually come, even though I enjoy myself. I do love to see others come. I just don’t know how I would feel if there was a live in sub who was constantly “outdoing” me, so to speak.
CON T – TEMPER – I often get on my Master’s nerves. I don’t like it when I make him lose his temper. He is never violent or anything. It just makes me feel so bad. I worry that all my insecurities will wear on him and then he might be likely to lose his temper.
CON H – HEARING – One time, when we were playing with others, I kept hearing my Master talking about how awesome this woman was that he was fucking. I did have a good time, but felt uneasy and very, very jealous. Come to find out, later, that he was actually talking about me, but I didn’t know. It was one of the first times that we played with another couple and we were all together on one bed and when he said “look at that ass!” and things like that, I thought he was talking about her. I tried to be happy about that, but I was so freaking jealous! He said that he had said a lot of stuff like that to try and show me that he was including me in his sex and even was touching me a lot, but I was not even aware of his touch.
CON E – EXCITEMENT without me. Again, the jealousy issue. I get jealous when even hearing about my Master talking or texting with another. To his credit, he has reassured me that he is just trying to make the other person feel good, as he should.
CON R – RIVAL – I worry about anyone becoming a rival for my Master’s attentions. Sharing is not the same as someone wanting it ALL, so to speak. I, do want it ALL, but am not willing to share it ALL with someone else. I fear that someday, someone will come along, perhaps thinking that they want to be a second sub, but then decide they want it ALL. And what if, at that time, my Master agrees.
CON S – SEX without me. I know, jealousy – the root of most fears!

Well, that wraps it up…my pros and cons of sharing my Master or playing with others. I kind of sense that Sharing my Master might entail more of a second sub aspect, whereas, playing with others, might be more of a play type thing. I tried to cover both aspects. Any thoughts out there?

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

My favorite toy…hmmmmmmmmmmmmm. Well, I really do love my vibrator, especially after I get really horny and play is coming to a halt, but I still want to cum.  Otherwise I don’t really like the vibrator right off, because I can cum quickly at times with a vibrator.  I like to prolong my desire through nipple clamps and slowly increasing flogging strikes. I also like my mask because it makes me feel so vulnerable.   There is a lot of toys that I haven’t tried yet, so we will have to see??