Back in 2011, I wrote my kinks as 24/7 (Total Power Exchange), Anal Sex, analsex,Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play),Biting, Blindfold,Blindfolds,Bondage,Branding (Permanent marks),Breast/Nipple Torture, Candle Wax, Clamps,Collar and Lead/Leash,Confinement/Caging,Depilation/Shaving, Dildo, Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons),Discipline, etc.,Exhibitionism/Sex In Public, Fire Play, Hair Pulling,Handcuffs/Shackles,Humiliation,Master/slave,Master/slave (BDSM), Mutual Masturbation,Nipples, Oral Sex, Pain,Pantyhose/Stockings, Piercings,Pinching, Power Exchange, Role Playing, Sadism,Sexuality,Spanking/Paddling, Talking Dirty, The Rack/Medieval Devices,Urolagnia,Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine),Voyeurism
I decided this time (2015), that I wanted to elaborate more on the list. Because some of the things that I have listed, I actually have never experienced, but think I would like to. I found a checklist on a site called, Kink Talk. Chloe posted a list for others to use. http://www.kinktalk.com/talk/showthread.php?t=542 TY Chloe.
The Almost Perfect Male Dom/Female Sub Checklist!
– Limit: means that the activity is a hard limit and that the sub will NEVER do that activity under any circumstances ever.
– Soft limit: means that the sub has great reticence towards that activity. Those can be due to either a VERY strong dislike, fear or disdain for that activity in general but that it is not impossible to negotiate them under some special circumstances.
– Dislike: means that the sub doesn’t like the activity but would not object if ordered to.
– Hmm…: means that the sub has no (or very little) experience with the activity and that she is not really curious about it either.
– Curious: means that the sub has no (or very little) experience with the activity but that she finds the idea interesting.
– Desire: means that the sub has little or no experience with the activity but greatly wants to try it.
– Okay: means that the sub has no problem with the activity but it has no special appeal to her.
– Like: means that the sub likes the activity at least on an occasional basis.
– Love: means that the activity figures among the sub’s favorites.
I need to add, here, that I put down love on things that I know my Master loves, even if I don’t love the activity, I love what it does – either turning him on, or me, unwillingly being turned on.
Abrasion: desire
Aftercare: love
Age play: likes
Anal beads: curious
Anal sex: love
Appearance modification: curious
Armbinders: curious
Armpit sex: okay
Ass cheek sex: love
Ass worship: like
Bare bottom spanking: love
Bare-handed spanking: love
Bastinado: limit
Bathroom use control: desire
Begging: love
Behavior modification: love
Belt spanking: love
Ben Wa balls: curious
Bestiality: limit
Beating (soft): love
Beating (hard): curious
Biting: love
Blackmail (play): curious
Blindfolds: love
Blow job: love
Body paint: curious
Body worship: curious
Bondage (light): love
Bondage (heavy): curious
Bondage (public, under clothes): curious
Boot blacking: curious
Boot worship: curious
Boss/secretary roleplay: curious
Branding (temporary): curious
Branding (permanent): curious
Breast bondage: curious
Breast fucking: love
Breast play/torture: love
Breast spanking: love
Breath play: love
Brother/sister roleplay: okay
Bruises: love
Butt plugs (small): love
Butt plugs (large): curious
Butt plugs (public, under clothes): curious
Cages: curious
Caning: curious
Catheterization: soft limit
Cattle prod: curious
Chains: curious
Chakra energy play:curious
Chamber-pot use: okay
Chastity belt: okay
Chauffeuring: okay
Chemical play: curious
Cigarette torture: okay
Clit torture: curious
Closet (locked inside of): curious
Clothespins: love
Cock worship: love
Collars (worn in private): love
Collars (worn in public): curious
Consensual non-consent: love
Contracts: okay
Corner time: love
Corsets: curious
Crawling: love
Creampie: okay
Cross-dressing: okay
Cuddling: love
Cunnilingus: love
Cutting: curious
Daddy/daughter roleplay: love
Deep throating: curious
Degradation: love
Denim/Jeans clothing: love
Diapers (wearing): limit
Diapers (wetting): limit
Diapers (soiling): limit
Dilation (anal): okay
Dilation (vaginal): okay
Dildos (penetration): love
Dildos (sucking on): okay
Discipline: love
Doctor/nurse roleplay: curious
Domestic service: love
Double penetration (oral/anal): curious
Double penetration (oral/vaginal): curious
Double penetration (vaginal/anal): curious
Douching: curious
Duct tape: curious
Ear plugs: curious
Enemas: curious
Erotic dance: curious
Examinations: curious
Exhibitionism (private):love
Exhibitionism (public): curious
Eye contact restriction: curious
Face farting: limit
Face fucking (forced blow job): love
Face slapping: love
Fantasy abandonment: soft limit
Fantasy rape: curious
Fear (being scared): love
Figging: curious
Fingering: love
Fire play: love
Fisting (anal):limit
Fisting (vaginal): limit
Flogging: curious
Food control: love
Food play: okay
Foot worship: okay
Forced bedwetting:okay
Forced exercise: love
Forced homosexuality: love
Forced masturbation: love
Forced nudity (private): love
Forced nudity (around others): love
Forced orgasms: love
Forced smoking: soft limit
Forced weight gain: limit
Forced weight loss: love
Gags (ball): curious
Gags (cloth): curious
Gags (inflatable):curious
Gags (panties): curious
Gags (phallic): curious
Gags (ring): curious
Gags (tape): curious
Gang bang (fantasy):curious
Gang bang (real): curious
Gas masks: soft limit
Genital bondage: curious
Genital sex: love
Given away to another Dom (temporary):curious
Given away to another Dom (permanent): limit
Gun play:limit
Hair bondage: okay
Hairbrush spanking: love
Hair pulling: love
Handcuffs (leather):curious
Handcuffs (metal): curious
Handcuffs (rope): love
Hand job (giving): love
Hand job (receiving): love
Harems (serving with other subs):love
Harnessing (leather): curious
Harnessing (rope): curious
Having clothes chosen for: love
Head harness: okay
High heels (wearing):love
Homework Assignments: love
Hoods: curious
Hot oils (on genitals): curious
Hot wax: love
Humiliation (private): love
Humiliation (public): curious
Hypnotism : curious
Ice cubes : curious
Impregnation (fantasy) :limit
Impregnation (real) : limit
Interrogation : curious
Japanese rope bondage :curious
Kidnapping fantasy : okay
Kissing: love
Kneeling : love
Knife play: love
Lactation: okay
Latex clothing: okay
Leashes: love
Leather clothing: okay
Lectures for misbehavior: love
Lingerie (wearing): love
Manicure (giving): love
Massage (giving): love
Massage (receiving): limit
Medical play: curious
Menstruation sex: okay
Mental bondage: curious
Mind control: curious
Mind fucks: curious
Modeling for erotic photos:love
Mouth bits: soft limit
Mouth soaping: curious
Multiple orgasms: love
Mummification: soft limit
Mutual masturbation: love
Name change (fantasy): love
Name change (legal): love
Needles: curious
Nipple play/torture:love
Nipple weights: love
Nylon clothing: love
Orgasm control: love
Orgasm denial: okay
OTK spanking: love
Outdoor scenes: love
Outdoor sex: love
Paddles (leather):love
Paddles (wood): love
Pantyhose/stockings (wearing):love
Pet play: love
Phone sex (serving Dom): okay
Phone sex (serving other Doms):okay
Phone sex (professionally): okay
Piercings: love
Pinching: love
Plastic surgery:okay
Police/prisoner roleplay: curious
Posture training: curious
Priest/nun roleplay: limit
Prostitution (fantasy): curious
Prostitution (real): soft limit
Punishment (play a.k.a. “funishment”): love
Punishment (real): love
Pussy spanking: love
Pussy/crotch torture: love
Remote control devices: curious
Restraints (ankles): love
Restraints (knees): curious
Restraints combinations (wrists to waist, etc.):love
Restrictive rules on behavior: love
Riding crops: curious
Rimming (giving): love
Rimming (receiving): love
Rituals: love
Rough sex: love
Saran wrapping: soft limit
Scarification: limit
Scat: limit
Scent play (aromas):love
Scratching: soft limit
Serving as furniture: curious
Serving as toilet (urine): soft limit
Serving as toilet (feces): limit
Serving as waitress: love
Serving other Doms (supervised):curious
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): okay
Sexual deprivation (long term): limit
Shaving (body hair): love
Shaving (genitals): love
Shaving (head): soft limit
Skinny-dipping: love
Skirts (wearing): love
Sleep assault: love
Sleep deprivation: limit
Sleepsacks/body bags:curious
Slutty clothing (private): love
Slutty clothing (public): curious
Spandex clothing: okay
Speculums (anal): okay
Speculums (vaginal): okay
Speech restrictions: love
Spitting: okay
Spreader bars: curious
Staples: curious
Straight jackets: curious
Suction cups: curious
Suspension (vertical):curious
Suspension (inverted): curious
Suspension (horizontal): curious
Swallowing (semen): love
Swallowing (urine): okay
Swallowing (feces): limit
Swapping (with another couple):love
Swinging (multiple couples): love
Switching: limit
Tampon training (in ass): limit
Tasting own cum: love
Tattoos: love
Teacher/student roleplay: love
Tears (crying): love
Teasing: love
TENS unit: curious
Threesomes (FFM): love
Threesomes (FMM): love
Thumbcuffs: curious
Tickling: limit
Triple penetration: curious
Urethral fucking: limit
Urethral sounds: limit
Verbal humiliation: love
Vibrators (on genitals): love
Vibrators (penetration): love
Videos (being recorded): love
Violet Wand: curious
Vomitting: soft limit
Voyeurism: curious
Waterbondage: curious
Watersports: love
Water torture: curious
Waxing (hair removal):curious
Wearing body fluids: lovwe
Wearing symbolic jewelry: love
Whipping: love
Wrestling: okay
Zapping (electric fly swatters): curious
I’m anxious to see what my Master thinks about my responses to my list. And BTW, I’ve gotten hot while going down this list. pant-pant 😉
Alright I have gone through this list and done a version of my own to compare notes from my point of view.
Abrasion: likes
Aftercare: love
Age play: loves
Anal beads: loves
Anal sex: love
Appearance modification: likes
Armbinders: likes
Armpit sex: Hmm
Ass cheek sex: love
Ass worship: like
Bare bottom spanking: love
Bare-handed spanking: love
Bastinado: limit
Bathroom use control: love
Begging: love!!!
Behavior modification: love !!!
Belt spanking: love !!!
Ben Wa balls: like
Bestiality: like
Beating (soft): love
Beating (hard): love
Biting: like
Blackmail (play): love
Blindfolds: love
Blow job: love
Body paint: okay
Body worship: like
Bondage (light): love
Bondage (heavy): love
Bondage (public, under clothes): love
Boot blacking: curious
Boot worship: curious
Boss/secretary roleplay: like
Branding (temporary): okay
Branding (permanent): dislike
Breast bondage: love
Breast fucking: love
Breast play/torture: love
Breast spanking: love
Breath play: love
Brother/sister roleplay: limit
Bruises: love
Butt plugs (small): love
Butt plugs (large): okay
Butt plugs (public, under clothes): like
Cages: like
Caning: love
Catheterization: hard limit
Cattle prod: okay
Chains: like
Chakra energy play:Hmm
Chamber-pot use: limit
Chastity belt: okay
Chauffeuring: okay
Chemical play: curious
Cigarette torture: limit
Clit torture: like
Closet (locked inside of): like
Clothespins: love
Cock worship: love
Collars (worn in private): love
Collars (worn in public): love
Consensual non-consent: love
Contracts: okay
Corner time: love
Corsets: love
Crawling: love
Creampie: okay
Cross-dressing: limit
Cuddling: love
Cunnilingus: love
Cutting: okay
Daddy/daughter roleplay: love !!!
Deep throating: love
Degradation: love !!!
Denim/Jeans clothing: love !!!
Diapers (wearing): hard limit
Diapers (wetting): hard limit
Diapers (soiling): hard limit
Dilation (anal): hmm
Dilation (vaginal): hmm
Dildos (penetration): love !!!
Dildos (sucking on): okay
Discipline: love !!!
Doctor/nurse roleplay: like
Domestic service: love
Double penetration (oral/anal): love
Double penetration (oral/vaginal): love
Double penetration (vaginal/anal): love
Douching: okay
Duct tape: okay
Ear plugs: okay
Enemas: like
Erotic dance: like
Examinations: like
Exhibitionism (private):love
Exhibitionism (public): love
Eye contact restriction: like
Face farting: hard limit
Face fucking (forced blow job): love !!!
Face slapping: love
Fantasy abandonment: hard limit
Fantasy rape: like
Fear (being scared): love
Figging: like
Fingering: love
Fire play: love
Fisting (anal): hard limit
Fisting (vaginal): hard limit
Flogging: like
Food control: love
Food play: okay
Foot worship: hmm
Forced bedwetting:hmm
Forced exercise: love
Forced homosexuality: love
Forced masturbation: love
Forced nudity (private): love
Forced nudity (around others): love
Forced orgasms: love
Forced smoking: soft limit
Forced weight gain: hard limit
Forced weight loss: love
Gags (ball): like
Gags (cloth): love
Gags (inflatable):okay
Gags (panties): like
Gags (phallic): like
Gags (ring): like
Gags (tape): like
Gang bang (fantasy):okay
Gang bang (real): like
Gas masks: hard limit
Genital bondage: like
Genital sex: love
Given away to another Dom (temporary):okay
Given away to another Dom (permanent): hard limit
Gun play: hardlimit
Hair bondage: okay
Hairbrush spanking: love
Hair pulling: love
Handcuffs (leather):love
Handcuffs (metal): like
Handcuffs (rope): love
Hand job (giving): love
Hand job (receiving): love
Harems (serving with other subs):love
Harnessing (leather): like
Harnessing (rope): like
Having clothes chosen for: love
Head harness: okay
High heels (wearing):love
Homework Assignments: love
Hoods: okay
Hot oils (on genitals): like
Hot wax: love
Humiliation (private): love !!!
Humiliation (public): like
Hypnotism : curious
Ice cubes : okay
Impregnation (fantasy) :hard limit
Impregnation (real) : hard limit
Interrogation : like
Japanese rope bondage :curious
Kidnapping fantasy : okay
Kissing: love
Kneeling : love
Knife play: like
Lactation: like
Latex clothing: okay
Leashes: love
Leather clothing: like
Lectures for misbehavior: like
Lingerie (wearing): love
Manicure (giving): hmm
Massage (giving): like
Massage (receiving): love
Medical play: like
Menstruation sex: okay
Mental bondage: LOVE
Mind control: curious
Mind fucks: like
Modeling for erotic photos:okay
Mouth bits: soft limit
Mouth soaping: hmm
Multiple orgasms: love
Mummification: soft limit
Mutual masturbation: love
Name change (fantasy): love
Name change (legal): love
Needles: hmm
Nipple play/torture:love
Nipple weights: love
Nylon clothing: love
Orgasm control: love
Orgasm denial: okay
OTK spanking: love !!!
Outdoor scenes: love !!!
Outdoor sex: love !!!
Paddles (leather):love !!!
Paddles (wood): love !!!
Pantyhose/stockings ():love !!!
Pet play: love
Phone sex (serving Dom): okay
Phone sex (serving other Doms):okay
Phone sex (professionally): okay
Piercings: like
Pinching: love
Plastic surgery:okay
Police/prisoner roleplay: like
Posture training: okay
Priest/nun roleplay: okay
Prostitution (fantasy): curious
Prostitution (real): soft limit
Punishment (play a.k.a. “funishment”): love
Punishment (real): love
Pussy spanking: love
Pussy/crotch torture: love
Remote control devices: curious
Restraints (ankles): love
Restraints (knees): love
Restraints combinations (wrists to waist, etc.):love
Restrictive rules on behavior: love
Riding crops: LOVE
Rimming (giving): love
Rimming (receiving): love
Rituals: love
Rough sex: love
Saran wrapping: Hard limit
Scarification: Hard limit
Scat: Hard limit
Scent play (aromas):love
Scratching: soft limit
Serving as furniture: curious
Serving as toilet (urine): soft limit
Serving as toilet (feces): Hard limit
Serving as waitress: love
Serving other Doms (supervised):okay
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): okay
Sexual deprivation (long term): Hard limit
Shaving (body hair): love
Shaving (genitals): love
Shaving (head): Hard limit
Skinny-dipping: love
Skirts (wearing): love
Sleep assault: love
Sleep deprivation: limit
Sleepsacks/body bags: hmm
Slutty clothing (private): love
Slutty clothing (public): love
Spandex clothing: like
Speculums (anal): okay
Speculums (vaginal): okay
Speech restrictions: love !!!
Spitting: okay
Spreader bars: love
Staples: okay
Straight jackets: okay
Suction cups: okay
Suspension (vertical):love
Suspension (inverted): like
Suspension (horizontal): like
Swallowing (semen): love
Swallowing (urine): okay
Swallowing (feces): Hard limit
Swapping (with another couple):love
Swinging (multiple couples): love
Switching: limit
Tampon training (in ass): limit
Tasting own cum: love
Tattoos: love
Teacher/student roleplay: love
Tears (crying): love !!! !!!
Teasing: love
TENS unit: like
Threesomes (FFM): love
Threesomes (FMM): love
Thumbcuffs: okay
Tickling: like
Triple penetration: like
Urethral fucking: Hard limit
Urethral sounds: Hard limit
Verbal humiliation: love !!! !!!
Vibrators (on genitals): love
Vibrators (penetration): love
Videos (being recorded): love
Violet Wand: Like
Vomitting: soft limit
Voyeurism: love
Waterbondage: okay
Watersports: love
Water torture: curious
Waxing (hair removal):curious
Wearing body fluids: love
Wearing symbolic jewelry: love
Whipping: love !!!
Wrestling: okay
Zapping (electric fly swatters): curious
Again, I’m hot!!! Pant pant!
Panting, nice but was it good enough to get a bark?
Thinking of being a sub for first time, where do I begin?
I would suggest to read, read, read. I would say ask questions. Don’t jump into anything. Get to know any potential Dom. And talk to other subs. I would be happy to be your friend. 🙂