Day 30 of 30 Days of Submission: Submission Needs

Day 30 – Is your need to submit being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the way that feels best to you again? What makes submission special to you?

I would like to have more submission in my life, I think. I’m happy with my relationship with my Master and he feels the same way, so I know we are on the right track. I do not think that I would be as happy if I were not in a relationship where I could be submissive. I like the way I feel when I’m being treated as a submissive by my Master. I crave it emotionally and I crave it sexually. I crave the feeling of being “taken care of” and I am attracted to Dominant figures, so it is a fit. At least I know that my Master and I “fit”. 🙂

Day 29 of 30 Days of Submission: Pain and Humiliation

Day 29 – Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?

Most definitely. I found myself to be turned on by spanking before I ever knew what BDSM or submission was. That aspect of myself is what actually was the link to finding myself submissive. As I began to explore the net and search out spanking, I began to come across BDSM and that, in turn, led to the realization that I was submissive and began to explore BDSM.

I enjoy a certain amount of pain and humiliation because it makes me feel more submissive which makes me more turned on which makes me want more pain and humiliation. Plus, I really want to please my Master and when i see that he enjoys administering pain and humiliation, then it turns me on and makes me feel more submissive and thus more turned and so on and so on.

I don’t enjoy punishment which I find different than torture. Torture is for turn on for either or both a Dom/sub, while punishment is administered to sub by Dom due to infraction and isn’t meant to be a turn-on. I do not enjoy punishment at all. First, the fact that my Master is not happy with me makes me pretty upset and so I’m not turned on at all. Plus, he administers punishment more quickly and harshly than the slow build up of torture.

I do totally embrace the pain and humiliation that is part of my submission to my Master.

Day 28 of 30 Days of Submission: Criticized

Day 28 – Has your submission ever let you down? Have you ever been criticized for your submission? Have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realized you made a mistake and how did you handle your submission going forward from that.

I can’t really think of a time where my submission has let me down, no.

Although we are more or less a regular couple in real life, we do carry over BDSM to some extent, though i think rather subtly. I think I appear to the outside as though I’m more or less either a princess or as someone who has a REALLY bossy, controlling husband. I prefer to think that they think I’m treated as a princess, but sometimes i get the…..”your husband drives you to work EVERY day? Don’t you ever drive? That would drive me crazy!” I take that as a criticism, but I try to play it off as if I’m a princess, which is how I really, really feel. I say, “Why should I drive when I can be chauffeured? I would much rather play on my iphone than pay attention to the road!” My Master takes very good care of me.

I love feeling submissive, so no, i don’t ever regret it. The only thing I do regret is some of the awful “chats” that I had with so called, ‘masters’, when I was first exploring the net. I thought to myself….”this is stupid!” And it was, until I met my Master. I feel so very, very lucky that I met him. I can’t imagine what would have happened to me. I was soo so gullible. I feel sorry for girls not as lucky as i, who in exploring might get into trouble. 😦 Hopefully, they do their research because there is a lot of info on the net now about BDSM. There didn’t used to be.

I’m sure that at some point in my future, I may be criticized for my submission. My feeling is that when that time comes, i will probably just dismiss it, because I will feel that the criticizer just does not know what they are talking about or does not understand. I feel fortunate that there are a lot of bloggers out there who validate how I feel by what they write. Thank-you, Sex Bloggers! I’m grateful. 🙂

Bark like a dog?

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ThoughtsFromHisSlut tells about barking like a dog. She talks about how she feels stupid but is lost in being his and therefore doing as he requests.

I know exactly how she feels. I HATE it when my Master tells me to bark like a dog. It is soo humiliating. I always feel my face getting red before I even open my mouth. I think the first time he had me to do that, I was a little tipsy, so it didn’t seem that bad, not really. But, my Master likes to tease me. He likes watching me be a little uncomfortable. Maybe it is partly because my face turns so red, so quickly – along with my neck and chest. Of course that also happens when I’m turned on, but that doesn’t mean I like it when he makes me do that. Sometimes I am so into my submission that I will really do just about anything with the right coaxing from my Master. I guess that includes barking like a dog. (pout)

Day 27 of 30 Days of Submission: Exploring Desires

Day 27 – Do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you?

I think it is both exciting AND frightening when i think of things that I’d like to explore with my Master. It’s mostly only exciting to me if I think that my Master might be excited about it, also. I’m interested in exploring many kinds of discipline and humiliation that might excite him. One example I think would be interesting to try is mild electric play. I’m also interested in delving deeper into slavehood.

It IS confusing to me that I’m interested in some of these things. And what’s even more confusing is that things that I thought in the past – no way. Now, I’m like…well, maybe…LOL

Day 26 of 30 Days of Submission: Desirable Qualities in a Dom

Day 26 – What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have?

I believe a Dominant should really love and care about his submissive. I believe that he should understand that his love and care for his submissive will result in her love and care and submissiveness to him. I believe communications is at the top of the list. If a Dom will talk to his sub, they will learn so much about each other. Reading and discussing blogs can open many doors for discussion, as can blogging itself. I believe that trust is paramount. Whatever she has stated that her hard limits are, he must not pass those. If he really wants her to not have certain hard limits, then he might talk with her about it, but never, never break her trust. If the sub cannot completely trust him to take care of her then she won’t be able to fully submit. I think that a Dom must go slow in introducing her to his ways of Domination. If he goes slowly, then not only will be trained as he sees fit, but also she will fall deeper and deeper into submission. I think if he is successful, then she will want more and more, not less Domination.

Every Dominant will make mistakes. Every Dominant will wish he were a better Dom. But, so also, will every sub wish she were a better sub. No one is perfect, but if a sub has trust in her Dom, and he truly perceives her as a treasure, by making communication a key part of their life, then they can grow together in their relationship.

Day 25 of 30 Days of Submission: Items, Objects or Rituals

Day 25 – Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?

First, I’ll address the items or objects that help represent my expression of submission. Often a sub has a collar of sorts. Usually, it is something that is given by the Master to the sub for her to wear as a representation of her submission to HIM. The first thing of this sort was my belly button ring. I chose to get a belly button ring as a subtle adornment to show that I belonged to my Master. I asked him for help in choosing my first belly button ring. I got my belly button pierced and wore a small pure gold ring with a fake diamond stone. It was huge for me! My Master told me that it would be my collar. I wear it to this day. In 2006, we got engaged and married. I wear a custom made engagement ring and a wedding ring. We have very unique matching wedding bands with very significant meaning. They are of my Master’s design and choosing. Then a few years ago, my Master bought me a silver Cartier Love bracelet. It is permanent. He bought and gave it to me at Christmas and screwed it together on my arm with the accompanying silver screw driver. It is never to be removed except by him. It has been on my wrist ever since. 🙂 sigh……. so romantic!

I would love to have a permanent collar or necklace like collar that is permanently locked onto my neck. I would also love to have a tattoo. Actually, I want a couple that are representative of my relationship. First I would like to have my Master’s initials tattooed onto my pussy lips. Second, I would like to have a bdsm symbol tattoo, somewhere on my body. Thirdly I would like to have a matching tattoo with my Master of his design. (I actually have 2 more tattoos in mind that are not bdsm related and no, currently I have no tattoos. haha)

Now, for the subject of rituals. Hmmmmm…..exactly what is a ritual.

rit·u·al adjective \ˈri-chə-wəl, -chəl; ˈrich-wəl\
: done as part of a ceremony or ritual

: always done in a particular situation and in the same way each time

Okay, that helps. I don’t have that many rituals that I currently practice, but I know that my Master and I look forward to adding more into our lives. I make coffee every morning for my Master and I follow a particular routine and method each time, so I think it might be called a ritual.

I always walk on the right side of my Master or slightly behind him.

I never wear perfume without asking my Master and hearing his decision for perfume for the day.

I look forward to sharing any new rituals!!!

Day 21 of 30 Days of Submission: Submissive Position

Somehow I skipped number 21.

Day 21 – Is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive?

Yes, I think kneeling makes me feel most submissive. Not really a position, but if my Master tells me to undress and he is not naked. That makes me feel very submissive. Being in the corner naked is another position, so to speak that makes me feel very submissive. 🙂

Day 24 of 30 Days of Submission: Emotions

Day 24 – What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission? What feelings do they inspire?

I think the emotions that I felt first were those of extreme sexual awareness and sexual attraction upon being asked to follow commands. These emotions made me want more! The more I explored with my Master as Dominant, I began to feel very treasured and taken care of. This also made me want more – more of the lifestyle, more of myself being submissive. I still feel these emotions, probably more so. And then I added pride to the previous emotions. I feel proud when I hear the words, “good girl”. I feel successful and that makes me happy, also making me want to submit more.

Day 23 of 30 Days of Submission: Submission Dislikes

Day 23 – Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you? Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings?

When I was first learning about what submission and Dom/sub meant, there were many things that I read about that I either definitely disliked or was definitely unsure about how I felt about it. I used to not like ANYTHING that was extreme. For example, I did not like stores where subs were treated like objects or treated in an uncaring way. I did not like the idea of pony girls, extreme pain or torture, or anything nasty involving body waste or vomit. Mainly, I think I was thinking of myself, but also for the poor girl who it seemed had nobody who loved her and in fact acted like they hated her!

As time went on, though, I learned quite a lot. First of all, my Master taught me that a good Dom truly cares for his submissive. He must treat her like a treasure so that she will provide him with what he needs/wants. So, some of the stories that I read were bad examples of a good Dom. On the other hand, some stories or snippets may only show a portion of the relationship. I think there might be times that if you looked at a snippet of our relationship, you might think, how horrid! But, you can’t take a snippet out of a relationship to define the relationship. And you also need to know how the sub feels. Does she feel happy? Does she feel cared for?

I also learned that it really takes a lot of self-control to give up control. That, in itself, is major, especially if you understand that statement. I believe that only a sub can understand that completely.

Another thing I learned and am still learning is different strokes for different folks and what has really made me understand this better is the changes that I have seen in myself – my ever changing wants and needs. I used to think that I only wanted a mild submissive life. I wanted to be bossed a bit and spanked a little, but no marks, please. I have progressively seen myself wanting more and more control taken from me. I’ve grown accustomed to seeing certain kinks through the internet and gradually found some that I was totally against, to now be a turn-on! How can that be? As for pain, I have a really low tolerance for pain, but want more pain. I want marks. (gasp).

Now, I look at some things and think…hmmmm.

I still am not interested in the pony girl scene, but now instead of saying, “really?” (eye roll), now I look and think hmmmm…not interested, unless my Master is? Because I’m honestly more into what turns him on. It doesn’t repulse me and I’ve seen too much now to eye roll that. I’m sure there are many who read some of my posts and eye roll – maybe because they don’t try to see what someone might get out of it?

And I’m still not into poop play. I don’t see that changing…ever. That is what I know to be one of my “hard limits”. Pee on the other hand…it IS sterile…and…