TMI Tuesday

“The emotions aren’t always immediately subject to reason,
but they are always immediately subject to action”

Quote from philosopher-pyschologist William James

Laughter: What makes you laugh?

Lots of things make me laugh. My Master is hilarious and makes me laugh all the time. I think humor is very, very important!

Anger: This past week, who or what really pissed you off? What happened?

Honestly, I can’t really think of anything that pissed me off this week. I guess I did get somewhat mad at a friend who told me she would have to check her calendar in response to my lets get together (coworker not a sex partner). And then she never got back to me. I felt mad and rejected. awwww. oh, well, onward.

Fear: What phobia did you have but overcame?

I used to be deathly afraid of heights and I’ve somewhat overcome that. (The helicopter ride in the Bahamas kind of cured me. LOL)

Surprise: Recently, what unexpected act or behavior did you experience in your sex life?

Um, well, the last time we went on a playdate, I was actually on my period. I had a tampon in and still wanted to play, but only like me giving oral and so forth. Surprisingly, the woman of the couple we were playing with fucked me in the ass with a strap on dildo. I was surprised, but went with it as my Master was encouraging me. Also, Master bought me a really cute sundress!

Trust: Many on-going relationships have a certain predictability about them. Does that certainty translate into trust?

I’m not sure about that. I mean I totally trust my Master, but he is definitely not always predictable.

Excitement: Who do you excite?

I hope that I excite my Master. And I also hope that I excite whatever play partners we encounter.

Bonus: What intimate activity do you share with your partner, something that is meaningful to your relationship? For example Sunday breakfast in bed, cooking, maintenance spanking, etc.

There are sooo many things! I serve him coffee in bed and we often sit beside each other and get on our computers and converse and share as we do. We also text like crazy to each other. We spend a LOT of time together and we never tire of it. We’ve been married for 8 years! Things only get better.

Anal Plugs

An anal plug is basically a dildo for the ass. It is either to increase pleasure and/or orgasm and/or it is for Dominance/submission expressions.

I’ve discussed some about Assplay

This post is about anal or butt plugs and my experience or not. I’ve had very, very little experience with this. My Master did get me an anal plug long ago. It was considered a “beginners” butt plug. It was very small and narrow and very flexible and slick feeling. The first time my Master put it in me, I was sure it felt very much bigger than it was. And he wanted me to wear it around that evening, and I did, but I remembering feeling afraid it was going to fall out?? It didn’t lol.

I think that this is one of those things that I might get more used to if I were made to use one. That is totally up to my Master, though. From what I’ve read, it also might help with not making ass fucking so painful, because you might be stretched a bit, if you wore one often? That is what I’ve gathered from reading.

As for the Dominance/submission factor? It really makes me feel submissive to think about either an anal/butt plug or being fucked in the ass. I think it is because I don’t really want to, but I’m being made to do it. Being made to do something that I don’t want to, that is sexually a turn-on for someone else (My Master), really, really turns me on. 🙂


My first reaction is “ouch”. Okay, my Master has fucked me in the ass several times. I’m always extremely apprehensive about it because, first of all, it hurts. Sometimes it hurts less than others, but it always hurts, period. Usually, once he gets it in and then starts fucking me, it doesn’t hurt at all and, depending on how much I’ve had to drink, it can feel really really good. But, pulling it out hurts, too. And then, I guess because my little asshole has been stretched, it often hurts for a day or so. This could also be painful because we don’t do it that often and we don’t do any assplay in between.

The other thing that worries me is worrying about getting him dirty from my ass. I know that he must not mind too much or he would say or do something. I’ve mentioned before that maybe I should enema, but he doesn’t really respond one way or the other.

My Master has mentioned several times in the past few months that he LOVES ass fucking. I’m perplexed, as usual. Because number one – uh, if he loves it so much, then why doesn’t he do it? Number two – is, uh, yeah, is it number 2? And if so, then he should say something.

There a few things that I have trust issues about. On the one hand, I TRUST that my Master will tell me the truth. But on the other hand, if he is afraid it will hurt my feelings, then I don’t trust that he will tell me the truth. Sorry. it’s true.

On that note, I’m wondering if I should like have a fixed day of the week that I should do an enema in prep for ass fucking? Like maybe every Friday night? But, would that be too much enema? I’ve heard that it is not good for you to do too much. On the other hand, I worry that my Master might then expect that I’m expecting it. Ugh! Unsure what to do!

TMI Tuesday – anal sex

1. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

a. I love it. ~ although I’m not that experienced, and a little shy about it.

b. I enjoy it.

c. I’m ok with it.

d. I don’t really enjoy it.

e. I don’t enjoy it at all.

f. I have never given anal sex.

g. I have never given anal sex, but would like to start.

2. How do you feel about receiving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

a. I love it.

b. I enjoy it. ~ although a little nervous about it and kind of hate to admit that I like it.

c. I’m ok with it.

d. I don’t enjoy it at all.

e. I have never received anal sex.

f. I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.

3. How do you feel about getting undressed in front of a new lover, for the first time, as he/she watches you?

a. It’s a turn on for me. ~ if I see that he/she is interested and likes what he/she sees, but also very shy about my body.

b. It turns me on a little bit.

c. I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.

d. It does nothing for me.

e. I don’t like doing it because I am shy.

f. I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.

4. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?

a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).

b. Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).

c. Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).

d. Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).

e. Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).

f. Never, not even when I am really turned on.

5. Do you talk to your partner in a sexually explicit way?

a. Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.

b. Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.

c. I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward. ~ shy would be a better word.  I find it embarrassing, but my Master likes to MAKE me say things.

d. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged or ridiculed.

e. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.

f. I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.

g. I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.

6. What kind of animal do you most sound like when building to a climax?

a. quiet little mouse ~ I think?  But when I actually climax, sometimes I hurt my own ears…yikes, how embarrassing!

b. low moaning wolf

c. screeching beluga whale

Bonus: Which do you prefer comfort sex or thrill-seeking sex? Why? ~ I guess the answer would be both!  I just love sex!  But, thrill seeking pretty damn awesome!!!

Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space.*
Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*

*Adapted from Susan Mernit’s blog


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Happy TMI Tuesday!

BDSM Challenge Day 2: List your kinks.





24/7 (Total Power Exchange), Anal Sex, Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play), Biting, Blindfolds, Bondage, Branding (Permanent marks), Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Candle Wax, Collar and Lead/Leash, Confinement/Caging, Depilation/Shaving, Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons), Discipline, Exhibitionism/Sex In Public, Fire Play, Hair Pulling, Handcuffs/Shackles, Humiliation, Master/Slave, Mutual Masturbation, Nipples, Oral Sex, Pain, Pantyhose/Stockings, Piercings, Pinching, Power Exchange, Role Playing, Sadism, Spanking/Paddling, Talking Dirty, The Rack/Medieval Devices, Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine), Voyeurism

Anyone care to comment?