Ritual or Routine

Is it RITUAL or is it ROUTINE?

Merriam Webster says:

RITUAL – done as part of a ceremony or ritual

: always done in a particular situation and in the same way each time

ROUTINE -: a regular way of doing things in a particular order

That doesn’t really help much, because they seem to be very similar. After reading around on the internet, I came to a few conclusions. I see ROUTINE as different than RITUAL in the meaning behind it.

For example, it is ROUTINE that before I go to bed, I brush my teeth first, then floss, then rinse with mouth wash. I do it the same way each time and I don’t feel right unless I do each one that way. But I would not call it a RITUAL because it is just for the purpose of cleaning my teeth and mouth and giving me fresh breath.

On the other hand, every morning I have another ROUTINE, that is, indeed, a RITUAL. I get out of bed before my Master each and every morning (or nap) and I go make him espresso in his Italian espresso pot on the stove. I do it the same way each time. I think of him as I’m doing it. I am so happy when we have Starbucks Sumatra coffee to put in the pot because he loves it best. I’m less so when we have run out and are using the Folgers. I rinse the pot with warm water and then fill it with cold, because that is supposed to make better coffee. I put the stove on number 8 so it will boil and percolate, but not overheat the rubber gasket (hopefully). After the coffee pot sputters its announcement that it is done, I immediately remove it, thinking of not wanting it to be too hot for my Man. Then the most important – I use one of his favorite mugs ONLY and I pour a very tiny stream into the cup. This cools it off faster. I add just the right amount of whole milk. Then I carry it to him and ask him if he is ready for his coffee. The meaning behind this RITUAL is very important to me. I’ve been doing it for a very, very long time. Even before we got married, he would have me to make him a cup of coffee and set it on the counter and then make my own cup. This cup of coffee was symbolic of my serving him in my mind, even though he wasn’t present. Now, I’m so happy to be able to do this in person. 🙂

So, I think a routine can be a ritual if it has MEANING behind it other than just a thoughtless act.

Day 25 of 30 Days of Submission: Items, Objects or Rituals

Day 25 – Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?

First, I’ll address the items or objects that help represent my expression of submission. Often a sub has a collar of sorts. Usually, it is something that is given by the Master to the sub for her to wear as a representation of her submission to HIM. The first thing of this sort was my belly button ring. I chose to get a belly button ring as a subtle adornment to show that I belonged to my Master. I asked him for help in choosing my first belly button ring. I got my belly button pierced and wore a small pure gold ring with a fake diamond stone. It was huge for me! My Master told me that it would be my collar. I wear it to this day. In 2006, we got engaged and married. I wear a custom made engagement ring and a wedding ring. We have very unique matching wedding bands with very significant meaning. They are of my Master’s design and choosing. Then a few years ago, my Master bought me a silver Cartier Love bracelet. It is permanent. He bought and gave it to me at Christmas and screwed it together on my arm with the accompanying silver screw driver. It is never to be removed except by him. It has been on my wrist ever since. 🙂 sigh……. so romantic!

I would love to have a permanent collar or necklace like collar that is permanently locked onto my neck. I would also love to have a tattoo. Actually, I want a couple that are representative of my relationship. First I would like to have my Master’s initials tattooed onto my pussy lips. Second, I would like to have a bdsm symbol tattoo, somewhere on my body. Thirdly I would like to have a matching tattoo with my Master of his design. (I actually have 2 more tattoos in mind that are not bdsm related and no, currently I have no tattoos. haha)

Now, for the subject of rituals. Hmmmmm…..exactly what is a ritual.

rit·u·al adjective \ˈri-chə-wəl, -chəl; ˈrich-wəl\
: done as part of a ceremony or ritual

: always done in a particular situation and in the same way each time

Okay, that helps. I don’t have that many rituals that I currently practice, but I know that my Master and I look forward to adding more into our lives. I make coffee every morning for my Master and I follow a particular routine and method each time, so I think it might be called a ritual.

I always walk on the right side of my Master or slightly behind him.

I never wear perfume without asking my Master and hearing his decision for perfume for the day.

I look forward to sharing any new rituals!!!