30 Days of Kink (Second Time Around): Day 2: List your kinks

Back in 2011, I wrote my kinks as 24/7 (Total Power Exchange), Anal Sex, analsex,Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play),Biting, Blindfold,Blindfolds,Bondage,Branding (Permanent marks),Breast/Nipple Torture, Candle Wax, Clamps,Collar and Lead/Leash,Confinement/Caging,Depilation/Shaving, Dildo, Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons),Discipline, etc.,Exhibitionism/Sex In Public, Fire Play, Hair Pulling,Handcuffs/Shackles,Humiliation,Master/slave,Master/slave (BDSM), Mutual Masturbation,Nipples, Oral Sex, Pain,Pantyhose/Stockings, Piercings,Pinching, Power Exchange, Role Playing, Sadism,Sexuality,Spanking/Paddling, Talking Dirty, The Rack/Medieval Devices,Urolagnia,Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine),Voyeurism

I decided this time (2015), that I wanted to elaborate more on the list.  Because some of the things that I have listed, I actually have never experienced, but think I would like to.  I found a checklist on a site called, Kink Talk.  Chloe posted a list for others to use.  http://www.kinktalk.com/talk/showthread.php?t=542   TY Chloe.

The Almost Perfect Male Dom/Female Sub Checklist!

Limit: means that the activity is a hard limit and that the sub will NEVER do that activity under any circumstances ever.
Soft limit: means that the sub has great reticence towards that activity. Those can be due to either a VERY strong dislike, fear or disdain for that activity in general but that it is not impossible to negotiate them under some special circumstances.
Dislike: means that the sub doesn’t like the activity but would not object if ordered to.
Hmm…: means that the sub has no (or very little) experience with the activity and that she is not really curious about it either.
Curious: means that the sub has no (or very little) experience with the activity but that she finds the idea interesting.
Desire: means that the sub has little or no experience with the activity but greatly wants to try it.
Okay: means that the sub has no problem with the activity but it has no special appeal to her.
Like: means that the sub likes the activity at least on an occasional basis.
Love: means that the activity figures among the sub’s favorites.
I need to add, here, that I put down love on things that I know my Master loves, even if I don’t love the activity, I love what it does – either turning him on, or me, unwillingly being turned on. 
Abrasion: desire
Aftercare: love
Age play: likes
Anal beads: curious
Anal sex: love
Appearance modification: curious
Armbinders: curious
Armpit sex: okay
Ass cheek sex: love
Ass worship: like
Bare bottom spanking: love
Bare-handed spanking: love
Bastinado: limit
Bathroom use control: desire
Begging: love
Behavior modification: love
Belt spanking: love
Ben Wa balls: curious
Bestiality: limit
Beating (soft): love
Beating (hard): curious
Biting: love
Blackmail (play): curious
Blindfolds: love
Blow job: love
Body paint: curious
Body worship: curious
Bondage (light): love
Bondage (heavy): curious
Bondage (public, under clothes): curious
Boot blacking: curious
Boot worship: curious
Boss/secretary roleplay: curious
Branding (temporary): curious
Branding (permanent): curious
Breast bondage: curious
Breast fucking: love
Breast play/torture: love
Breast spanking: love
Breath play: love
Brother/sister roleplay: okay
Bruises: love
Butt plugs (small): love
Butt plugs (large): curious
Butt plugs (public, under clothes): curious
Cages: curious
Caning: curious
Catheterization: soft limit
Cattle prod: curious
Chains: curious
Chakra energy play:curious
Chamber-pot use: okay
Chastity belt: okay
Chauffeuring: okay
Chemical play: curious
Cigarette torture: okay
Clit torture: curious
Closet (locked inside of): curious
Clothespins: love
Cock worship: love
Collars (worn in private): love
Collars (worn in public): curious
Consensual non-consent: love
Contracts: okay
Corner time: love
Corsets: curious
Crawling: love
Creampie: okay
Cross-dressing: okay
Cuddling: love
Cunnilingus: love
Cutting: curious
Daddy/daughter roleplay: love
Deep throating: curious
Degradation: love
Denim/Jeans clothing: love
Diapers (wearing): limit
Diapers (wetting): limit
Diapers (soiling): limit
Dilation (anal): okay
Dilation (vaginal): okay
Dildos (penetration): love
Dildos (sucking on): okay
Discipline: love
Doctor/nurse roleplay: curious
Domestic service: love
Double penetration (oral/anal): curious
Double penetration (oral/vaginal): curious
Double penetration (vaginal/anal): curious
Douching: curious
Duct tape: curious
Ear plugs: curious
Enemas: curious
Erotic dance: curious
Examinations: curious
Exhibitionism (private):love
Exhibitionism (public): curious
Eye contact restriction: curious
Face farting: limit
Face fucking (forced blow job): love
Face slapping: love
Fantasy abandonment: soft limit
Fantasy rape: curious
Fear (being scared): love
Figging: curious
Fingering: love
Fire play: love
Fisting (anal):limit
Fisting (vaginal): limit
Flogging: curious
Food control: love
Food play: okay
Foot worship: okay
Forced bedwetting:okay
Forced exercise: love
Forced homosexuality: love
Forced masturbation: love
Forced nudity (private): love
Forced nudity (around others): love
Forced orgasms: love
Forced smoking: soft limit
Forced weight gain: limit
Forced weight loss: love
Gags (ball): curious
Gags (cloth): curious
Gags (inflatable):curious
Gags (panties): curious
Gags (phallic): curious
Gags (ring): curious
Gags (tape): curious
Gang bang (fantasy):curious
Gang bang (real): curious
Gas masks: soft limit
Genital bondage: curious
Genital sex: love
Given away to another Dom (temporary):curious
Given away to another Dom (permanent): limit
Gun play:limit

Hair bondage: okay
Hairbrush spanking: love
Hair pulling: love
Handcuffs (leather):curious
Handcuffs (metal): curious
Handcuffs (rope): love
Hand job (giving): love
Hand job (receiving): love
Harems (serving with other subs):love
Harnessing (leather): curious
Harnessing (rope): curious
Having clothes chosen for: love
Head harness: okay
High heels (wearing):love
Homework Assignments: love
Hoods: curious
Hot oils (on genitals): curious
Hot wax: love
Humiliation (private): love
Humiliation (public): curious
Hypnotism : curious
Ice cubes : curious
Impregnation (fantasy) :limit
Impregnation (real) : limit
Interrogation : curious
Japanese rope bondage :curious
Kidnapping fantasy : okay
Kissing: love
Kneeling : love
Knife play: love
Lactation: okay
Latex clothing: okay
Leashes: love
Leather clothing: okay
Lectures for misbehavior: love
Lingerie (wearing): love
Manicure (giving): love
Massage (giving): love
Massage (receiving): limit
Medical play: curious
Menstruation sex: okay
Mental bondage: curious
Mind control: curious
Mind fucks: curious
Modeling for erotic photos:love
Mouth bits: soft limit
Mouth soaping: curious
Multiple orgasms: love
Mummification: soft limit
Mutual masturbation: love
Name change (fantasy): love
Name change (legal): love
Needles: curious
Nipple play/torture:love
Nipple weights: love
Nylon clothing: love
Orgasm control: love
Orgasm denial: okay
OTK spanking: love
Outdoor scenes: love
Outdoor sex: love
Paddles (leather):love
Paddles (wood): love
Pantyhose/stockings (wearing):love
Pet play: love
Phone sex (serving Dom): okay
Phone sex (serving other Doms):okay
Phone sex (professionally): okay
Piercings: love
Pinching: love
Plastic surgery:okay
Police/prisoner roleplay: curious
Posture training: curious
Priest/nun roleplay: limit
Prostitution (fantasy): curious
Prostitution (real): soft limit
Punishment (play a.k.a. “funishment”): love
Punishment (real): love
Pussy spanking: love
Pussy/crotch torture: love
Remote control devices: curious
Restraints (ankles): love
Restraints (knees): curious
Restraints combinations (wrists to waist, etc.):love
Restrictive rules on behavior: love
Riding crops: curious
Rimming (giving): love
Rimming (receiving): love
Rituals: love
Rough sex: love
Saran wrapping: soft limit
Scarification: limit
Scat: limit
Scent play (aromas):love
Scratching: soft limit
Serving as furniture: curious
Serving as toilet (urine): soft limit
Serving as toilet (feces): limit
Serving as waitress: love
Serving other Doms (supervised):curious
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): okay
Sexual deprivation (long term): limit
Shaving (body hair): love
Shaving (genitals): love
Shaving (head): soft limit
Skinny-dipping: love
Skirts (wearing): love
Sleep assault: love
Sleep deprivation: limit
Sleepsacks/body bags:curious
Slutty clothing (private): love
Slutty clothing (public): curious
Spandex clothing: okay
Speculums (anal): okay
Speculums (vaginal): okay
Speech restrictions: love
Spitting: okay
Spreader bars: curious
Staples: curious
Straight jackets: curious
Suction cups: curious
Suspension (vertical):curious
Suspension (inverted): curious
Suspension (horizontal): curious
Swallowing (semen): love
Swallowing (urine): okay
Swallowing (feces): limit
Swapping (with another couple):love
Swinging (multiple couples): love
Switching: limit
Tampon training (in ass): limit
Tasting own cum: love
Tattoos: love
Teacher/student roleplay: love
Tears (crying): love
Teasing: love
TENS unit: curious
Threesomes (FFM): love
Threesomes (FMM): love
Thumbcuffs: curious
Tickling: limit
Triple penetration: curious
Urethral fucking: limit
Urethral sounds: limit
Verbal humiliation: love
Vibrators (on genitals): love
Vibrators (penetration): love
Videos (being recorded): love
Violet Wand: curious
Vomitting: soft limit
Voyeurism: curious
Waterbondage: curious
Watersports: love
Water torture: curious
Waxing (hair removal):curious
Wearing body fluids: lovwe
Wearing symbolic jewelry: love
Whipping: love
Wrestling: okay
Zapping (electric fly swatters): curious

I’m anxious to see what my Master thinks about my responses to my list.  And BTW, I’ve gotten hot while going down this list.  pant-pant 😉

Kink versus Fetish….What Does It All Mean?

People use the words kink, kinky and fetish all the time.  “ooooo…kinky”  or “I have such a fetish for chocolate covered cherries!”  However, what do the words REALLY mean?

KINK – unconventional sexual taste or behavior or  a clever unusual way of doing something

FETISH –  a need or desire for an object, body part, or activity for sexual excitement
In other words, kink can also be a fetish, but not necessarily, while a fetish is always a kink.
Let’s say someone enjoys being spanked or whipped in the realm of sex.  Let’s say it is a turn-on or it enhances some part of getting aroused. Then for that person, spanking is a kink.   If that person NEEDS to be spanked in order to become aroused or maybe even to orgasm, then it is not just a kink, anymore.  It is now a fetish.
Oh, but there are so, so many more kinks than just being spanked or whipped.  The list is almost inexhaustible.
What are some different kinks?  Here is a list to get you started…abrasion, age play, anal sex, anal plugs, animal roles – like puppy, pony, and kitten, arm and leg sleeves, asphyxiation, auctioned for charity, bathroom use control, bestiality, beating, blindfolds, biting or being bitten, blowjobs (giving/receiving head), bondage, branding, boot worship, bondage, breast whipping, brown showers (scat), cages or closets, caning, catheterization, chastity belts, chauffeuring, choking, clothespins, cock worship, collars, competitions, corsets, cuffs, cutting, dilation, double penetration (as in pussy and ass), electricity, enemas, chastity, examinations, exercise (forced), exhibitionism, eye contact restrictions, face slapping, fantasy abandonment, fantasy rape, fantasy gang-rape, fisting (anal and/or vaginal), foot worship, forced dressing, forced homosexuality, forced masturbation, forced nudity, hoods, gags, golden showers, hand spankings, implementation spankings, hair pulling, hand jobs (giving and/or receiving), harems, harnessing, food control, clothing control,  high heel worship, homage with tongue, hot oils, hot wax, housework, humiliation, hypnotism, ice cubes, infantilism, injections, interrogations, kidnapping, kneeling, leather clothing, lecturing, manicures, massage, medical scenes, modeling, photographing, videoing, mouth bits, mummification, nipple clamps, nipple weights, clit clamps, clit weights, vaginal lip clamps, vaginal lip weights, ball clamps, ball weights, oral/anal play, spanking, orgasm control, outdoor sex, phone sex, piercings, public exposure, pussy/cock whipping, pussy worship, riding crops, rituals, religious scenes, rubber/latex, saran wrappings, sensory deprivation, serving as furniture, serving as maid or waiter or waitress, serving as art or table decor, serving others, shaving (body and/or head), sleep deprivation, speculums, spreader bars, standing in corner, stocks, straight jackets, dildos, suspension, supplying new partners, swallowing semen, swallowing urine, swapping, swinging, tattooing, teasing, tickling, vibrators, voyeurism, water torture, and whipping.
So, what are your kinks?  or fetishes?  or are you still exploring?  …..like me.  🙂

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

???The only way it varies for me is that I fantasize about what I really wish/know might happen in real life.  What are fantasies if not to wish to come true?